WHY DO WOMEN GET ATTACHED QUICKER THAN MEN?? BUT WHEN THERE IS A BREAK-UP; WHY DO MEN FIND A REBOUND FIRST??
firefreaq (this topic's creator)8/10/2007 10:42:08 PM
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TanteTasha 8/11/2007 10:28:44 PM
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I dunno
firefreaq (this topic's creator)8/18/2007 5:22:31 PM
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dang.. tante i guess no one cares about my topic... cause i guess you really have to think about the answer
firefreaq (this topic's creator)8/18/2007 5:24:47 PM
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the answer i believe.. is that women are more sensitive and they have feelings first... and when we are heart broken it's harder to have a rebound.. and mainly because men are dogs.. heheh
wait a minute nevermind.. dogs are loyal
Twice_baked_taders 8/20/2007 9:40:38 PM
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Women are no more sensitive. They just wear it like a badge of honor. Women wallow in emotion and men wallow in sex, "in general"
Men keep their sexual options open/ women keep their emotional options open. "in general"
Loyalty is earned and can be revoked. No one deserves it and it's prospect comes with no guarantees.
I think the rebound effect is universally human and does not favor one sex or the other.
firefreaq (this topic's creator)8/21/2007 12:50:32 AM
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good answer twice_baked_taders ...now lets see what others think..
N_Tesla 8/21/2007 9:00:33 AM
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Well, leme see...I was seperated for over 1.5 years, divorced now for a year. My ex got married virtually the minute the ink dried, and I don't even have a girlfriend....Guess I'm unusual....lol
robbi642 8/21/2007 9:59:59 AM
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My wife had two or three boyfriends, BEFORE we were separated, then went through a string of guys before we were officially divorced. I didn't date for eight years. Hmmmmmmmmmm.....no, I think your subject is biased based on your own experience and not the population as a whole. Like TBT said.....it's not a gender thing and you can talk in "generalities", but if you really researched it....I believe it would be about 50/50.
Twice_baked_taders 8/22/2007 11:10:18 AM
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Cuzz we is all Human.
chef_kuhn 8/23/2007 3:59:08 AM
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I think most women get attached because they want a emotional connection and I don't know about the guy thing
firefreaq (this topic's creator)8/23/2007 11:50:51 PM
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i guess that what you guys are saying is true... thanks... i guess i can be biased sometimes
firefreaq (this topic's creator)8/23/2007 11:58:31 PM
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I GUESS IT'S SAFE TO SAY THAT THE WEAKEST ONE OF THE TWO.... OR THE NEEDIEST ONE OF THE TWO... FINDS A REBOUND BECAUSE THEY NEED TO BE NURTURED IN SOME WAY OR.. THEY NEED THINK THAT THEY WERE NOT THE PROBLEM IN THE RELATIONSHIP... SO THEY FIND A PARTNER AS SOON AS THEY GET A CHANCE.
Twice_baked_taders 8/25/2007 12:09:16 AM
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Yep. Best to take a break and let ones head clear.
ScarlettButler 9/2/2007 9:34:55 PM
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agrees with Robbie! I lived separated for 4 yrs (while he lived with HER!) till she decided it was time for him to ask for a divorce ! he got just what he asked for too , so did she
ManhattanBabe 9/28/2007 7:10:09 PM
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I think its depends on the person themselves, what they need emotionaly, my first has been married three times already, he just cant be alone. I feel thats it best to give yourself time to heal and find yourself again.These are three rules that have have followed
Don't make any big life decisions like changing jobs or moving to a new house. Your judgment will not be its best right after you break up with someone.
Don't use alcohol or drugs to help numb your pain. They'll cause you to spiral downward. Alcohol depresses the central nervous system and can lead to increased depression over time.
Don't jump into a new relationship too quickly. You're more likely to repeat the mistakes that you made in the relationship you just ended. While it's tempting to try to fill the void, it's unwise in the long run because you need time to reflect on why your relationship didn't work and what you can change going forward.
bettyblooper51 10/1/2007 10:48:47 PM
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I don't think that most men are any quicker to get in a new relationship than a woman. I think it's 50-50, based on my friends and my own relationships. After the last one, which was a bad one, I gave it up for a few years. Back out trying it again.
Northern_lights4 10/9/2007 1:20:57 AM
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Agrees with Twice, Robbi and Betty. After my last breakup it took me a while to even think about having a relationship. Not bitter, but wary. Just wanting a clear head. I have learned alot about myself by not seeking and getting attached so quickly. My next relationship will be much better for the time I have taken.
ScarlettButler 11/5/2007 9:27:58 PM
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agrees with betty/ northern/ manhatten, I have a good idea that truly works for me !! get a job that will keep you too busy to be bored! it works for me, Im still flying solo, happy , and taking my time , will be nice when I do run into THE ONE once again.. but Im not desparate..
MikePowers 11/21/2007 9:52:37 PM
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Rule #1: Never break a girl's heart!
Rule #2: If you can't never sleep with her in a room where scissors lay on the table
mostie_again 12/7/2007 7:30:58 AM
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heh heh heh!
flht 12/8/2007 6:34:08 PM
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I'm on board with the "get your act together first" school of thought. You really are'nt doing yourself, or the other person any favors by dating during or right after a divorce. Get it behind you, and then you can give the new girl the attention she deserves!
Rollo_Quarters 12/9/2007 12:56:07 PM
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Men might have more "disposable" cash. LOL
steely689 12/28/2007 5:52:10 PM
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THERE'S ALLOT OF REALLY GOOD STUFF HERE.
TRUTH FOR ME HAS BEEN YOU NEVER REALLY GET OVER IT.
YOU LEARN TO LIVE WITH IT
AND SOMETIMES
A PERSONAL TOUCH HELPS ALLOT
Appaloosa51 1/11/2008 12:40:47 AM
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Women get attached quicker ? dont think so .. what that is .. is the passion fire of a woman inside her ... its not attachment ... a woman will do what she wants and gets what she is after and that is that ... and drop what she does not want ... as for me I have a philosophy I am a poet ... if a man chases a woman he will never have her ... but if a woman chases a man ... well ... you know that she will always be yours !!!!
Khalid09 2/6/2008 5:08:53 PM
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ITHE THE PSYCO OF A HUMAN FEMALE
bunkieboo 2/16/2008 5:12:01 PM
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I agree with taders, robbie, manhattan & betty. Gender wise it is about 50-50 and manhattan gives some really good rules she lives by. Thanks Manny!
tck_beachbum 2/16/2008 5:19:29 PM
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Because a stiff dick has no conscience.
tck_beachbum 2/16/2008 5:52:58 PM
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Also - many women, especially married women, fail to understand the true physiological essence of the human male. An essence which is a genetically close match to that of a lion, seeking the necessity to spread his seed far & wide among a large pride of females.
If more women would just relax and not raise so much commotion when the male seeks harmless sexual release with other females the world might be a better place.
Kind of just common sense in a lot of ways. 
msemily 2/16/2008 6:12:45 PM
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oh tck...you wish..........personally, i agree with whatshisface.......uhhh....hold on......oh yah.........appaloosa...........
spart 2/16/2008 6:12:46 PM
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Using the lion example, are you saying that lions have a lesbian population?
hornidj 3/14/2008 2:59:32 PM
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AgentDoink 3/14/2008 3:01:58 PM
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Men rebound first for the simple fact that they are willing to nail anything alive and moving walking upright on two legs..........Women love with their heart......Men love with their mind.
Elizabeth_A 4/10/2008 11:47:11 PM
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Men find a rebound first, because they dont care. They will F%^&ck anything.
Chilario 7/21/2008 5:54:07 PM
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twice baked tater put it best
enlightend_rogue 7/26/2008 3:53:59 AM
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I gotta agree with twice baked and manhattan.
curlyb136 8/20/2008 1:25:09 AM
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You can't generalise every man and woman are different everyone has different feelings and needs and everyone has a different timescale for getting back to the dating lark IMO.
g100_percent 8/20/2008 1:34:09 AM
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i agree with roobbie its not the gender its that person an how they chose to deal with there emotions
namewala 8/20/2008 2:36:14 AM
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hmm...yes, gender does not really determine how one deals with emotion. but,it appears that it does.
this is because of what society expects from us : men are supposed to be tough while women should be not.
even in love....men should be logical while women may be irrational. unlike men, women may blindly fall in love and get super depressed after a break-up......
a rebound, i think is men's way of (desperately and mutely) dealing with their hurt and depression.
gtr420 8/20/2008 7:33:22 AM
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the attatchment and rebound effects are not the actual feelings, its just the method by which they are conveyed/concealed. personally, i think that both, rapid attatchment, and quick rebounding reflect an abnormal level of neediness. it doesnt reflect that the attatched one cares (cared) more than the rebounder. i kinda find it hard to believe anyone who truly doesnt care would even bother to enter a relationship in the first place.
lulu38 8/20/2008 8:26:30 AM
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i think men rebound faster because they need to reenforce their self-steem
we (men/momen) function differently, but as the Beatles song goes...
ALL WE NEED IS LOVE
Hunter_Rep 8/24/2008 12:38:04 AM
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men dont have self asteem, we have hormones
BROWSE NOW
