Do you like a woman to make the first move?
Getright127 (this topic's creator)10/14/2007 5:17:29 PM
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Getright127 (this topic's creator)10/14/2007 5:20:10 PM
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I could see if it were 1972 and the Brady Bunch was still coming on TV. This is now 2007 soon to be 2008. Is it not suitable for a woman to reach out and initiate a relationship without seeming to be desperate?
OldFashionedGirl 10/14/2007 9:40:45 PM
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While I think it's okay for a woman to make the initial contact, I am not comfortable with doing that and prefer the guy to make contact. I think it depends on the person, male or female.
Buck101 10/15/2007 2:40:35 AM
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I think it's okay. I don't see any reason for a woman not to let a man know directly that she is interested in him.
joki570 10/15/2007 9:42:04 AM
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I agree with Buck, why shouldnt a woman take the first step?
tck_beachbum 10/15/2007 10:22:21 AM
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Usually when women make the first move it indicates that they are ready for sex, so I'm all for it.
tck_beachbum 10/15/2007 10:52:01 AM
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Note that I also have a great deal of respect for women who know they want sex, women that like sex, and women that aren't ashamed to admit it.
I like a girl who isn't afraid to show her man of choice how good she can make him feel (in as many ways as possible).
mostie_again 10/20/2007 9:36:50 AM
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For those of you who are new, you must understand that Tck is our resident perv- he's a good guy, truly- but he's like one of those sweet little puppies that yap around your ankles and such, and then next thing you know, they're trying to hump your leg- all in good fun, of course- LOL
On THAT note....I never was one to approach someone else initially- I'd put myself in their line of vision, and if they bit? They did- lol- but make the first move? Huh uh.
Hunter_Rep 10/21/2007 12:10:29 AM
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hey if a women wants ta make the first move by unzippin my pants and givin me a knober i am all for it.
dutch2004 10/25/2007 12:42:37 AM
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Wow, good question. If the woman is confident in herself it's fine.
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QuietHunter 10/25/2007 1:03:05 AM
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Women make the first move
They do that ?!?!?! Wow, who knew....
Githyanki 10/27/2007 6:11:55 PM
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I thought I did like women making the first move.....
Then I ran across this passive aggressive female stalker, just recently. Rather freaky. Let's just say that the word lady in this particular context was an oxymoron.
Guess I am just insecure at heart, you know? Or maybe she was simply too much woman for me, and all that.
So as much as anything else, it is a matter of style and degree as well. Which should not be a barrier for a woman who has these qualities. But yeah, I'm skittish.
Much to my own surprise. Guess mom taught me too well, after all. Thought I was a realist, but there you go. Victim of a pseudo liberal upbringing, wouldn'tcha know....
More seriously though, men have to learn to handle rejection from an early age and move on, whereas I am not so sure women like it very much at all, and that is the real reason why women play the waiting game. It is just so much more comfortable on the ego. Apart from being more "feminine".
tck_beachbum 10/27/2007 6:21:16 PM
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''Then I ran across this passive aggressive female stalker, just recently. Rather freaky. Let's just say that the word lady in this particular context was an oxymoron.''
Was her name Getright127?
(I'm not sure if she fits the 'oxy' category, but the 'moron' part is totally appropriate, lol.)
ScarlettButler 11/4/2007 10:48:46 PM
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well here is my input on your topic GETRight I read your profile and I am a little like you when it comes to friends, like your profile said "I pick my friends like I do my fruit"
I am very choosing who I am friends with ,forgive me you all but its just me Ive been there done that and learnt a hard lesson from it all. I am still in the " old fashion way of dating I prefer the man to make the move " . I know this is the new Millinum and its so hard to adapt to this whole new dating scene.. its just so scary now a days.. but my answer would add that IF I knew of this man from some other friends then yes I might initiate an invitation for a drink sometimes, but to a total stranger ? no way .. its just me .. dont take it wrong ..
Twice_baked_taders 11/6/2007 1:27:14 AM
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Getting to know someone casually first is the best way.
Why would a person hesitate if they were truly moved?
Man or woman. If you don't it will drive you nuts.
In the past I felt compelled. They never went anywhere. lol
This time was special. A unique introduction to an interesting and
carefully approached situation. Never saw it coming....lol
ewopper02 11/7/2007 6:41:04 PM
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Well... with the cloudy sexual harassment issues so prevalent I think it's a good thing for the woman to make the first move.As long as she isn't wearing leather, a mask, and snapping a Cat'9 tail while swinging cuffs and doing her best catwoman impression [grin]
Hunter_Rep 11/7/2007 9:00:12 PM
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anybody else notice cantgetright has dissapeared
CHOCOLATEAPHRODISIAC 11/25/2007 1:07:38 PM
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MANY TIMES YOU GET WHAT YOU ASK FOR SOONER THAN YOU THINK SO BE EXACT WHAT YOU WANT
constellation 11/25/2007 1:15:14 PM
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I like much more when the woman makes the first move, so it's definetly ok.
Nuttybunz 11/25/2007 2:18:15 PM
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Soooooooooo...you would be sitting and expecting for her to come over and say HI to you...well that is purely laziness, Ladies & Gentlemen :P...shame on you
constellation 11/25/2007 2:46:44 PM
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Well, I admit I'm lazy, but there's an advantage, if she takes the first move, I'm sure I'm not bothering her, L*
billyjeweler81 2/28/2008 4:56:38 AM
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HI EVERYBODY
lovehabib 3/12/2008 1:19:53 PM
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AgentDoink 3/12/2008 1:30:49 PM
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Nuttybunz.........
this is 2008 try to start thinking out side of the box for once in your life.
there are no laws saying that Women are not allowed to make the first move?
just because your not getting hit on doesn't mean you have to take it out on the rest of Us..........by calling us LAZY. What is lazy and puts me to sleep is your line of thinking.
I get hit on by Women all the time...it's some thing I have had to learn to live with.
362636 5/11/2008 9:04:58 AM
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I think most men like aggressive women. Especially if they are good looking and sexy.
Elizabeth_FL 5/12/2008 10:43:51 AM
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Why are we asking this question, women have been initiating interest for many many years. Little girls do it when they are in grade school and so do High School girls. Adults have have been doing it for years. I guess I do not understand why we are aksing this.
Moneymaker187 5/12/2008 11:33:16 AM
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I think many (not all!!) girls that make the first move are bitches which respond nearly every guy.
ManhattanBabe 5/12/2008 12:26:47 PM
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It depends on the individual, the situation at hand. Some shy guys whould have never met their girlfriends, if not for the woman taking the lead. There is nothing wrong with it. It dosent make you a bitch, what a demeaning word. If you know what you want, why not go after it.
swamper40 5/12/2008 12:32:09 PM
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I like manny's answer
Elizabeth_FL 5/12/2008 1:56:28 PM
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Moneymaker, if that were true, that would make the majority of women bitches which would be a very inaccurate presumption. I would say they are not bitches, they are girls/women just showing interest in a guy. How they do it could classify one as a bitch, yet for the most part,they have been doing it since the 1960's. It is very common place both at the grade school, middle school, high school, college, and adult life. So what is the harm.
362636 5/12/2008 3:21:06 PM
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Different races see and treat women differenly, which is why OJ's white wife was murdered and why very few black women have live-in husbands.
jaxom 6/14/2008 9:33:38 PM
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I think it is fine for the woman to make the first move, I want to make sure that I am wanted and I am not misreading the situation.
serenalucy19 6/16/2008 12:56:00 AM
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Doomgurl 7/11/2008 8:02:44 AM
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I don't see the difference in WHO makes the first move - just aslong as someone does! On the same token - being a female who is the one who ALWAYS makes the first move, it would be nice to see some men out there having a little more courage.
guamgalincali 7/11/2008 12:28:21 PM
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Here's my input: Just be the MAN, because I am the WOMAN...doesn't need to be complicated..simple..that's a good thing.
520Ttown 7/20/2008 8:23:02 PM
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I think it's fine. If she's into a guy then why not. The trick is whether the guy picks up on it or not.
guamgalincali 7/20/2008 9:32:34 PM
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Welcome to Mingles, 520...nice pic.*{* Enjoy your stay!
enlightend_rogue 7/22/2008 1:07:39 AM
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I love women who are confident and self assured. Nothing turns me on more than a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to speak her mind. But a woman should be free to be who she is, so if a woman doesn't make the first move I respect that too.
Mafiaqueenisback 8/3/2008 3:39:48 AM
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yes
Hunter_Rep 8/3/2008 4:59:27 PM
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i am just happy if a women doesnt make the move to run away from me
Hunter_Rep 8/14/2008 12:15:48 AM
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thanks for the info spamer, now go away, FAKE
randy58usa 10/31/2008 1:52:12 PM
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Hi everyone this is my first post! I love agressive women and I think Scarlett is hot!!
smithaj56 10/31/2008 1:59:34 PM
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I prefer the women to make the first move, personally. but the first move could be something simple like aggressive flirting, it doesnt have to be grabbing my junk.
bornagain08 2/9/2009 10:18:48 AM
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I used to be the kind, that would make the first move. Taking a chance, and hoping the girl liked me enough to respond. I am finding now, more then ever, I would prefer the woman to approach me, then I know she has an interest in me, and wants to be with me.
shuvoD 2/16/2009 10:04:24 AM
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i like the move but u know theres always a doubt in the mind . Coz particularly girl dont approaches first . But if ya find that she is interested ,then just keep goin on .
missmidnightlace 3/1/2009 12:50:40 AM
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hi -member sence 2006 i say both just jump into wild loveing as in the moveies soon as the breathing starts -off goes the tops and it is a happy couple -slideing all over the place ; lol;--was that to much ???
shainaleigh 3/4/2009 4:26:35 AM
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hey
keiralicious 8/11/2009 2:56:33 AM
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titofrank4real 8/13/2009 4:59:23 PM
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yes woman are the holing block of heart
simonoghogho 8/24/2009 4:28:32 AM
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DorkFishKatie 8/24/2009 4:43:29 AM
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jenzel 8/24/2009 1:38:32 PM
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for me,women often make the first move only mens aren't not aware of these moves bec, a lot of female flirting techniques like looks,smiles,self caressing are less recognizable than the kinds u employ like actually coming over.
Marvin2012 9/3/2009 8:14:19 PM
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It would make things much easier, i must say.
Jenzel; in the situation u just mentioned. Men do make the first move by checking her out and smiling or even wave at her; thus, making the first move. If she is interested then, she would smile back.
Keiralicious: I'm available. lol
schlomo1 9/3/2009 8:55:56 PM
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women ALWAYS make the first move (but we are never aware of it)
schlomo1 9/3/2009 8:57:40 PM
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namcazam 9/4/2009 5:19:06 PM
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I have to agree with Marvin2012.
niceguy11 9/23/2009 4:03:28 AM
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Truth be told, men are sometimes idiots. Women constantly have their guard up. I think the woman should initiate some contact and explain her intentions. This way no one gets hurt and no games are played. Everyone does play these games, and anyone who was in a relationship knows what i mean. Just end the games and be straight forward. In my opinion, the girls leave the guys in a complete mind f**k. No disrespect to women, but they cant always play the victim anymore.
TMSSiberian 9/25/2009 1:08:39 PM
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OMG is this for real, Getright127 started this forum thread 10/14/07 two f***ing years ago and it's still running. LMAO. In this day & age of the evolution of mankind that we would be intelligent enough to know the answer to such a question in male/female initial contact in anykind of relationships. DOH ME A Homer or is there trully a lack of real intelligence in the human genome.?? LMAO Of course it's OK or suitable for a woman to initiate first contact in a relationship. It goes both ways geesh, Man or Woman, if U see, hear, read, have somekind of interest in another human being that U can possibly approach them, long as U realize the other person has the right to NOT WANT TO.!! Respect.!!
xclr8n 9/27/2009 9:52:15 PM
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It all depends on the two individuals when they meet but generally I have always made the first move.
orionshunt 9/28/2009 9:30:54 PM
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