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This question was posed on another site and it surprised me how many men said they would boink but then not have much respect for the woman after>? I hate these double standards! What do you think?

I might (although I never have) but it would have to be someone special. I wouldn't loose respect for the woman. That is hypocitical. I would probably get all mushy on her lol.

At this point in my life I might be more likely to go for it. I am just less uptight about sex now.

First & foremost - the double standard exists. A guy can screw 100 women and he is a stud, a woman screws 100 guys and she is a ho. We may not like it, it may not be fair, but that's society's overwhelming view.

I've 'boinked' a chick on the first meeting and dated her afterwards, and I've 'boinked' a chick on the first meeting and never saw her again. For me it depends on a lot more circumstances than just having sex.

What circumstances are they? Depends on if I really like her or not. Depends on whether I think she would be good for more than just sex. Depends on if we have coinciding interests other than sex. Could be lots of reasons.

"Depends on whether I think she would be good for more than just sex"

OOO OUCH!

Hey January54, did you know that this is 2007? Almost 2008?

People, both girls and boys, really do admit they like sex now, it's true! These aren't our parents' times where girls pretended they don't like sex, lol.

Stay in the past if you like, it's your choice, but as we (WE, as in all people) grow older our sexual prowess diminishes. There will come a day when you will look back and wish that you had left all of those Catholic school girl rules by the wayside and had enjoyed yourself more.

I one-night-standed this absolutely gorgeous chick from Scotland one night. We f*cked for hours in every position imaginable. I ran into her again the next night and she didn't want anything to do with me. She said we had already 'done it', and that she was looking for a different sex toy that night, lol.

I looked deep into her eyes, sighed, and said.... "I know exactly what you mean...".

tck

I admit I like sex a LOT! I am just not You! You can be a ho and get away with it. I did all that stuff when I was younger, now I just want some ONE. I hope I come back as a tck in my next life!

I think tck's right, it is a double standard, and regardless of how 'equal' anyone wants to make it, it's just one of those situations that won't ever change- if a guy is with a grip of women, about the worst thing he is, is a 'player'- if a woman does, well....we all know what society deems her, lol-

Thing about it is, you have to think like a guy in a situation like this- women are the classic 'nurturers' in society, we're the glue, so to speak, that pull it all together- for a woman to do a guy on the first date (if I were a guy, this is what I would think..), the first thing that would run through my mind is, 'well...she's sleeping with me on the first date- how many other guys does she sleep with on the first date?'- secondly, it comes down to a matter of respect for yourself- a lot of women will feel pressured to have sex on the first date because the guy wants to, and she feels that if she doesn't he probably won't call her again- but then again, let's say she DOES buckle under the pressure, and sleeps with him- is that someone she really wants to see again, considering that she felt pressured to begin with, and it was never about her as a person, but more about her as a...well, a piece? There are lots of decent guys out there who won't pressure the first time around- and who respect a woman enough, and are interested in the whole person enough to give it time and wait- no matter how much women want to be like men, and have the same 'rights' as men, we never will be- that's just the way it is, lol

Dear adopted cyber-daughter, Mostie. You're still a virgin, right?

If she is, then I must really be DIVINE!

First date boinkin? If someone is doing that on the first date they surely are not serious. It's all about sex.

If you want more respect than that them demand it.

it depends on what the person is looking for, whats right for you may not be what another person feels right with. i say to each their own. i never judge anybody, and to label a person, is ridiculous. and how do you know really if you hold off having sex with someone, by waiting months or weeks, that you arent going to get dumped?

Waiting to have sex gets people dumped? Yah mean it saves them the trouble of wasting their time. It illustrates where ones interest truly lies. A person can get their scmecky sncharbled all alone. Big whoopty. Kabang! Pppffftt! and there yah go. Bob job.

No trust issues. Surely can't earn trust and respect with sex. It will get yah money and

various trade goods fer EBAY...LMAO

Sure, the double standard exists, but only if you buy into it. As an adult, I shall boink whenever and whoever I feel the need or want to.

you feel the need to boink now?

There are some profiles on here that I read, and it has a picture of a woman in a...compromising position, for want of another word- there's one in particular I'm thinking of that I saw the other day, I can't recall her name but it had to do with some sexual position or other-- and she had a 'sexy' picture up, and of course the name kicked it pretty good- but then she goes on to say in her profile that she doesn't want to be seen as a sex object, and wants a deep, meaningful relationship- It's kind of hard to want something like that, and then come across that way- and all it does is tell people something different-

Mostle

those profiles are usually fakes, that are used by sites to attact men to them, then they feed you some sex or porn site in a email. The thing i find odd, is how woman will not admit that they enjoy sex and desire it as much as a man. However there are woman these days that do admit it, and yes the stigma of the old Shes a HO for sleeping with so many guys is in my mind to a degree. Sorry part of that was up brining that you should be with only one woman. Well i am only ever with one woman, so its one of those hard things for people to grasp.

However i think what is more attractive is not so much the BOINKing on the first date, nor is it a turn off. But what happens during that BOINKing, do it have what you wanted or desired. Was it something you want to repeat with them, did it spark something deep down or did you feel bad afterwards? The main thing is each individual needs to either except it or not, and know for a fact that is how they feel. If they dont like Boinking (love that word) on the first date, and do it anyways hoping to catch the other in a relationship. Well thats your fault. It has nothing to do with what others think but with your own desires. Sometimes great relationships start with the first BOINKing. Some end before they begin cause of it. There really is no good answer as each individual thinks diffrently.

Like me depending on the feelings before hand, i might go for it, or i might not. Im kinda like KHAOS ill do it the first time, but im also an addict and since i only do one woman ata time, well id be addicted and want it again SOON lol...

When some chicks say they want a 'deep, meaningful relationship' they're actually trying to say, "Stick it in deep, big boy, and pump like you mean it..."

LOL TCK lol

"Boinking on the first date"..... lets get to the point and call it what it is..... casual sex. its not for someone that is looking for a relationship as it is more likely to lead you to someone who is not. it doesnt take two to "scratch an itch" but it does take two to make a relationship work and if one doesnt care...... then guess what.

No. I never have believed in that.

me neither

Call me old fashioned, but i dont' think it's ok to boink on the first date. I think sex is infanitely better when it's part of a commited relationship. NO im not a prude, i've done it on a first date before, but, after all the break ups and stuff, i'm looking at life a completely different way now.