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All my clothes are "sexy". But I'll start with my New Years Eve Party outfit in the photo. I wore a mongolian lamb jacket, spike heels, jewelery, an all-over tan, Opium, and that's all. Hubby wore an Indianesque bone collar, Opium for Men, and an all-over tan. (We were at a clothing-optional resort!!)

Yesterday we went to a Texas Gentlemen's Club (strip club), and I wore a magenta satin blouse open to the waist (no bra), black capri leggings, heels and a fancy silver bracelet that got caught in a sexy stripper's fishnet stockings!!!!

Today we are going on a bike run to South Padre Island, and I'm wearing a fringed black leather vest (open to the waist, no bra), tight jeans, black leather headband, boots, gloves and leggings.

How about you?

Today we are riding our bikes to South Padre Island TX for a big biker party

I am clueless. I like to think I have sexy in my eyes. I am sensual to begin with so

sexy clothes just get in the way. ;P

Dear Clueless,

If clothes get in the way, why do you wear them? (And from your photo, I can see you do wear lots of clothes!)

For me, sexy clothes are sort of what fish bait must be for you. If you want to attract trophy fish, you have to use the right kind of bait. Right? Same same. If I want to attract sexy guys, It makes very good sense to use sexy-guy bait!

Which brings us to the fish photo. Perhaps you could explain to little ole dumb-blonde me what kind of lady you are fishing for with that photo?

Hugs!

"Which brings us to the fish photo. Perhaps you could explain to little ole dumb-blonde me what kind of lady you are fishing for with that photo?"

One named starry that did not run when I mentioned chipmonk fishing. :P

Chipmonk fishing? We have a whole colony of tame chipmonks at our house in Montana. They come when called and eat out of our hands. Can't imgaine what "chipmonk fishing" is!

From the lack of response I'm getting the impression that there aren't many "sexy" people here?

Interesting thread, 36. I haven't really thought of myself in terms of sexy for a while (you should have seen me when I was 19, though. I was trouble with a capital T). I'm probably the wrong age and wrong sex to think about being sexy these days, but I do try to dress well and I am trying to get more buff. I dropped the junk food diet and probably lost about 10 pounds and still working on losing more, and if I can ever motivate myself to get into the gym, well, who knows, maybe there's hope for me yet.

Those of us who are truly sexy only need wear a twinkle in the eye and a smile

***"I am right now wearing a Gauthier shirt (no sleeves no bra), a slim pair of Jules jean's, and Klein boxers. Is that sexy or do I need something else?"***

Mike, she says trade the Jules and Klein in for Bartles and James and you should be good to go. Unless Martini and Rossi comes along, in which case she will have to have you reschedule at a less opportune time.

LMAO...

Everyone over at Boone's Farm thinks she's a Mad Dog

LOL...and it's not like they don't see people for who they are, they have 20/20.

...something black usually works- but then, I think sexy is a state of mind- and I can feel sexy in a long t-shirt with nothing else- I think it works for capn too, lol

OOOHH_LAA_LAA!

I'll say it does, lol.

In return, I'll wear a ball cap and sunglasses.

It's kinda TCK was polarizing all the attention and was preventing us from seeing how really entertaining this site could be. *l*

Mike,

I was thinking you were more the pink panties type? Hahahaha!

Truth is, I like my men more mature. Think Antonio Banderas.

Cristo,

A tan and a twinkle are all I'm wearing at the moment. It's 85 today at the beach. Too hot for clothes. (Not that I really need an excuse to party naked!)

Captain,

My usual drinks are Stolichnaya icy from the freezer, or frozen Jose Cuervo margaritas! However, I'm drinking an icy Mojito right now. Well, sipping it really.

Lean 7,

Don't tell me your desire for sex and to be sexy is gone at 51? My hubby is older than you, and he has sex on his mind constantly. But maybe that's because he is deprived in a sexy FemDom sort of way, and takes Cialis every Friday whether he needs it or not?

Little mike says:

Well Grandma 36....truth is I like my grandmas with more brains and less ego.

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Dear little mike,

See what I mean about you being immature? Now be a good little boy and go back to sucking your thumb in silence.

small but significant nuances

Mike, did you *run and hide*?

Yep Captain... I really don't wanna see that. *l*

Oh no, I wouldn't say my sense of sexiness is gone at my age-- I just sort of set it down somewhere and misplaced it but I'll find it eventually.

I always try to wear things to be sexy, the only difference is casual sexy, or I want this guy to go out of his mind sexy. When I want a guy to go out of his mind I either wear a thong and a sexy top, or a sexy bustier or lingerie, although i've done naked and that works too especially as long as a great tan is going on as well, plus my heart outline and Playboy bunny outline from the tan looks good. Its not just about what you wear though its how you present yourself and move too, I know I have that down.

Melissa,

I've found that going entirely nude isn't really all that sexy. Which is why most nude resorts require total nudity and forbid the wearing of clothing, most especially sexy clothing. To be nude and sexy usually requires (at the minimum) wearing a good all-over tan and high heels.

I agree with the thong and sexy top, especially when wearing heels. Truth is, except for sexy indoor entertainment, I don't wear panties much anymore. Too confining.

Lately I've been wearing bra-tops from V's Secrets with jeans or shorts and heels (4" spike heels are what make the biggest visual difference for the guys). Down here on the Tex-Mex border, lots of sexy latin women wear spike heels every day, even to the grocery store.

How do you get the tan outlines? With paste-ons?

Oh, I forgot one thing. Nude sexy also requires an all-over shave for that sexy "smooth" look that the guys like.

***Oh, I forgot one thing. Nude sexy also requires an all-over shave for that sexy "smooth" look that the guys like.***

Don't you think a hairy asscrack looks wayyyyyyyyy much better under that teddy bear coat? *l*

Again, I must post a "Holy Moly!"

However, I feel the need to contribute: The thread title is "What do you WEAR to BE sexy?"

I AM sexy, regardless of what I wear.

(I'm sure not everyone would agree with me on that, but as they say, sexy is a state of mind!)

you said it sister!

Yep!

Lisa, what you are wearing in your photo looks to be a bit more (or less) than a state of mind. At least my hubby thinks so.

*high fives Chai, You hit the nail on the head* I was going to say what Lisa said, however she beat me to it..LOL.. I could be in sweats and a tank top and be sexy..It is all about how you carry yourself and how you feel about yourself.. I dont need to display the goods to think and feel sexy...

Ahhhhhhhh, the cats are at it again! Pardon me if I point out a pertinent fact to you "ladies". But each and every one of you is showing more than I am in my photo!

"Lisa, what you are wearing in your photo looks to be a bit more (or less) than a state of mind."

It's true that the blouse I'm wearing in that pic is a deep V-neck, and the green brings out the green in my eyes, and also the short sleeves show off my toned arms. However, that blouse didn't MAKE ME SEXY.

36, I've read some of the forums you've participated in lately, and you seem to be rather intelligent and definitely have an interesting point of view. But you've gone from the doe-eyed eyelash-batting post "dumb-blonde me" to defensive-antagonistic shock posts. You make some really good points and provide interesting perspective (discussing firearms, motorcycles and Islam), perhaps you should choose your words more carefully when titling a forum topic, that's all.

Certainly there are pieces in my wardrobe (certain jeans, tops, shoes, etc.) that I love to wear because they facilitate my own awareness of my allure. However, it's empowering to know, as a woman, that sexiness is within - not contained in an article of clothing or particular accessory. Don't you agree?

I believe it also depend on what one finds sexy. I personally do not like a fake look.

I like women without makeup. It shows confidence, lack of a need to compensate for a

perception of lacking self worth. No need to pretend, this is "me"

Frankly, If I am interested in sex, I do not have sex with clothes.

Cindy could wear a flower sack and I would ravage her if we shared that "look"

I said RAVAGE.....that was cool

But soooo not tater of me. :P

We are sensual beings. We don't need to sell that fact.

But that is me. Others require the fantasy. Not knocking it. It is a high maintenance way of living. The apple cart is easily upset. I prefer the bedrock of simplicity.

I find beauty in it.

every woman has the choice of whether to wear makeup or not. I wouldn't criticize any woman who made the choice to not wear makeup. I do feel, however, that every woman should care about their appearance. Like it or not, your appearance is the picture of yourself that you show to everyone you come across on a daily basis. Whether there's makeup in that picture or not, the important thing is that you are happy with it.

High Maintenance to me isnt a financial issue, exclusively or about a woman being demanding. Although being high maintenance requires the means by which a womans needs, wants, desires and pleasures can be given to her. There should be perks for staying the course. Many [women] have stayed the course and can enjoy the perks that come with working hard and smart. I do not particularly like when the phrase high maintenance is used for a person. I think it works perfectly well for certain vehicles, and other things such as hardwood floors, 100% linen and silk outfits, or even a long and thick mane of hair. It works for things that require more attention than their alternatives, perhaps?

I am aware some women require more upkeep than others but its their choice and lifestyle. One woman may not care about makeup, manicures, pedicures, massages, highlights in her hair, fine jewelry, luxurious suites at their vacation destination, or being catered to and pampered. Another woman may seek out this treatment because it enables her to thrive and flourish. Would the latter type of woman be considered High Maintenance?

What I think is wrong is when a woman demands these things from someone when she isnt capable of providing them for herself. Or when she forces a man to go into debt just to maintain a facade, which isnt affordable for either of them. A man complying with such demands need to reassess his involvement with this type of woman and bid her farewell.

Good posts MB

***Ahhhhhhhh, the cats are at it again! Pardon me if I point out a pertinent fact to you "ladies". But each and every one of you is showing more than I am in my photo!***

Yeah, but we all know they don't do swinger parties, put their men in DOG COLLARS NUDE, and run around naked in public, lol

Definately a good post Manny

I could never be nude in front of everybody I feel that its for the intimate scene. My body is special to me, and I will only show all of it to the man I'm with. I wear sexy tops with jeans and heels very often and its a way of being casualy sexy. The other things are for that special someone but other wise for the most part I always feel sexy, Ive gotten men worked wearing a flannel it is all about presentation and confidence if you feel good other people sense that and feel the same way.

They are stickers from the tanning salon in different shapes and you keep putting them in the same place everytime you tan.

Tader said "ravage!"

lol...Starry, what are you putting in that boy's food?

ravage?

Must be "Mighty Dog" lol!

Lisa says: Certainly there are pieces in my wardrobe (certain jeans, tops, shoes, etc.) that I love to wear because they facilitate my own awareness of my allure. However, it's empowering to know, as a woman, that sexiness is within - not contained in an article of clothing or particular accessory. Don't you agree?

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Hi Lisa!

You are correct, and I should be more precise when titling threads as you suggest. This thread should have been titled, "what do you wear to LOOK sexy".

The point in dressing sexy (to me) is to express my inner self in such a way that others can see and appreciate it. That some women don't want to dress or look sexy, is fine. But it's my opinion that they are short-changing themselves by failing to look their best. Which I think is similar to what M-Babe was talking about.

We went out with some good friends last night, and one of the women wore no make-up, her hair was hanging limp in a ponytail, and she was dressed in ultra-frumpy sweats. We know this woman is really nice and personable and since she is a nudist we know for a fact she has a great body. But, for whatever reason, she almost always dresses and looks frumpy out in public.

In the same group was her exact opposite. This other lady was dressed in a very nice, classy, sexy outfit, her make-up and hair were perfect, and it was clear to everyone that she was proud of herself and took pains to look her best.

Melissa,

One reason you feel the way you do is you are no doubt confusing nudity with intimacy and/or sex. However, at the vast majority of nude resorts it is neither.

Haven't you ever wanted to feel the FREEDOM of running naked through the woods? Or swimming naked? Or hiking naked? Or even dancing naked? We do it all the time, and I assure you that you will never know real freedom until you do.

"The point in dressing sexy (to me) is to express my inner self in such a way that others can see and appreciate it. That some women don't want to dress or look sexy, is fine. But it's my opinion that they are short-changing themselves by failing to look their best. Which I think is similar to what M-Babe was talking about."

I appreciate this point. You find your way of seeing things as sexy. It works for your purpose. Others do not agree. You feel that not looking sexy by your definition is shortchanging yourself. Others do not feel that way. Some like myself don't think it matters in the least.

There are many "sexy" looks fashion wise that I simply do not find attractive. I dress up now and then. I will not define myself by what I see as that tiny high maintenance world. It does not work for my purpose.

Sexy means your attitude and your confidence in being who you are. A women who exudes confidences and attitude and great personality. People who are sexy comes in all shapes and sizes. She could be wearing a man tshirt and looking damn hot. The outfits are secondary.

36, with your frumpy friend, I'm not sure if this applies to the situation you described but I've known (and dated a few) very attractive women who dress down if meeting up with friends just so they don't get constantly hit on. It's usually a casual drink-type situation and they don't plan to make an evening of it, it's just catching up with girlfriends or coworkers. If this was an evening out with several couples, maybe this woman doesn't place the same importance on dressing up.

One point that needs mentioning is that the attraction between men and women is usually a SEXUAL attraction. To pretend that it doesn't exit, or, worse yet, to intentionally dress frumpy to negate it seems silly to me. I mean, isn't that what nuns are required to do?

I don't know, I'm not the woman in question. All I know is, it was communicated to me how annoyed she was that she had about 45 minutes to spend with an old friend and most of that time was taken up with guys inviting themselves over to start up conversations. She wore some makeup, I guess, but had her hair in a pony tail, wore a sweatshirt, jeans, nothing very fancy from what I remember. Maybe it wasn't a case of intentionally dressing down but dressing for how the rest of her day was spent, maybe she was going to the gym later or coming back from there, who knows? She could have dressed up I suppose but she told me she wanted to see an old friend before the friend returned home. I just remember being impressed that at 2:30 in the afternoon, the lounge lizards were apparently out in full force.

7,

I wasn't talking about your specific situation, but of sexual attraction in general.

"One point that needs mentioning is that the attraction between men and women is usually a SEXUAL attraction. To pretend that it doesn't exit, or, worse yet, to intentionally dress frumpy to negate it seems silly to me."

Do you mean one attraction between men and men, women and women, and men and women is a sexual attraction.

We are attracted to people for a plethora of reasons. We respect them, admire their abilities, their passion for life, their compassion for others, their wit, charm, elegance, humbleness, outgoingness, strength, savvy, shared interests, being down to earth, submissiveness, domineering, the list is quite long. Anyone can have sex. Not a quality to admire. Kinda like breathing. Anyone can do it, even alone.

Intimacy is another matter. It requires a laundry list of prerequisite interests in each other to be achieved. The more respect you have for someone the greater the intimacy.

"To pretend that it doesn't exit, or, worse yet, to intentionally dress frumpy to negate it seems silly to me."

Because you feel it is of great meaning and importance. I can understand that. It's what your world is about. Other people do actually focus on other things.

There are those that feel the need to suppress by dressing down. there are others who do not find it as pivotal in their lives as you do.

"rhetorically, you're tck with a fake fur"

..*l*

I know but It passes the time. :P

I changed my photo from the "Venus in Fur" look, to "Biker Babe". Does it make a difference in how you "picture" me? This one was taken in scenic Spearfish Canyon, near Sturgis, during Sturgis Bike Week last August. That's my bike I'm standing next to.

Oops, changed the photo again. Spearfish canyon, no bike.

odd, since you stated so many times that you have no means to put up another pic

Well, Cristo, thanks to blonde, beautiful and smart Lisa, I know how to post photos now! Thanks again, Lisa.

As you know, my hubby is a pro photographer. The problem I have is finding photos of myself that are legal on this site. Most of my pics are 1950's & 1960's style Playboy pin-ups, done in very good taste, of course.

The photos are all current, 2007 & 2008, but have that 50's-60's look. Too bad I can't post some.

send them photos over here,,,,69@excite.com,,,i'll take a look to see if your a ten or not or tck..

camo, nothing sexier then camo

OK catch up post as this topic seems to have died. (last post 5/5)

Looking sexy is rarely about what your wearing, its how its presented. Some of consistently sexy women I know look sexy in a jogging pants and a sweat shirt. Some of the ones I know wear really hot outfits and just look slutty. Some can wear the hot outfits and look sexy. It's all in the presentation.

I believe that initial attraction is sexual. Walk in to a place that you don't know anyone and who would you rather start to converse with?

As for what I wear thats sexy, once again it's in the presentation. I used to dress in the most advanced fashions, the suits and outfits that were soon to be the styles. Then I started a job to help out a friend in a fish plant getting off work at midnight, we would use a hose to spray each other down and head to the nightclub after work. I did even better then as one girl said "You walk across the dance floor with that big grin looking like a piranha in a fish tank" It's all in the attitude. ( That was many years ago but the principle is still the same)

Mystery and hints are far more appealing to me than blatant exposure.

AS for what I wear now to be sexy, the same grin.

Oh, Gawd! A hosed-down fish-smelling guy is SEXY???????????????????

Where is this nite sport you frequent? In Haiti? Hahaha!

just jeans and a polo shirt, thats what I wear. for me it seems to be my eyes that attract attention not what I wear.

Heavy sigh ......... I tried, I really did.

And I fail.

Lets see how long before my post gets deleted.

No 36, not in Haiti, but one can be sexy anywhere. Haiti, the mall, Walmart, the grocery store, work, anywhere. You seem to be confusing slutty with sexy. Not saying they are exclusive. I have read enough of your posts to realize that we have entirely different world views. You seem to think that dressing like a high class escort makes you look sexy (and I'm sure your agency appreciates it), but there is a whole lot more to it. It's also very different for the two sexes as even you must know. All life is divided into two basic groups, predator and prey. Most males (not all, look at your hubby) of our species fall into the predator group. This does mean you have to be a predator but if you exude those pheromones that say confidence, successful hunter here, you will attract others. On the other hand most (once again not all)females are more tuned to the roll of prey. They attract more of the hunter types by looking like sweet tender morsels rather than like easy meat. Although if your just hungry NOW.

On a more personal note, I don't care for your lifestyle, been there, done that, it doesn't work for me. I find it very hard to respect someone whose values are so different. I do realize that what consenting adults do is their own business. I would not like to live it, but thats just me.

About you profile picture, my kudos to your surgeon, he did a fine job on your "face". If by any stretch of imagination that is the real you, you can thank genetics for making you look so much like silicon. I myself would rather just go to a hardware store and buy a couple of tubes of silicon to have sex with as I wouldn't have to buy it drinks and its easier to dispose of when your done.

"In your defense."

I have noticed that many of you tend to pick on 36 about her MENSA status. I will defend this to the best of my ability.

You gentlemen have it wrong, she is talking about the support group.

Multiple Entries Need Stimulation Always.

I myself have worked with this group as a volunteer in my younger years, and have found many pleasant women from the group that on occasion I liked to spend time with. A most satisfying experience. One should always do some kind of volunteer work.

This would be much longer but I type slowly and have a life to get back to.

Of course Hunter_Rep would think camo is sexy! And cristobolito you are not sexy probably never have been. I am sexy all the time no matter if I am wearing anything or not. I prefer to wear nothing for the ladies when they come over

imstupid5's idea of sexy is dressing up in a fish net tank top, wearing satin speedos and cowboy boots and a cowboy hat...

You can resign from this site or get booted off, imstupid. You're choice.

IM5 must of pissed off the moderator

To be sexy i usually wear just a smile and a hard on!

I wear pig tails to be sexy!!!!

a confident and genuine smile

i wear my clean tighty whiteys, the ones without the skid marks and ventilation holes

Being sexy starts from the inside. Once you feel it from the inside whatever you wear goes.

Carriage matters. See yourself and your dress code the way you want others to see.

my structure doesn't make me look good in a carriage

Being sexy starts from the inside. Once you feel it from the inside whatever you wear goes.

there must be a way to carry your structure that will make u look sexy and attractive

its all about comunicating with the inside

i feel sexy in whatever i put on.

Am out. A message for the ladies: dont forget to square your shoulders when you walk it'll make you feel like a Queen and always raise your head instead of looking to the ground that's a show of inferiority.

does carring a dead deer on my structure make me look sexy?

yes, yes it does

no but it makes your butt look big

damn it, i was hoping that wouldnt happen, that guy at bass pro shops swore to me that the camo would make me look slim along with a dead deer

A sweatshirt and my ballcap. LOL

MY KITTIE CAT CUSTOME ADD I MY GREEN EYES ARE SEXY TOO....meow...lol

t shirt alone