*wonders what just happened*
BookOfFire (this topic's creator)11/4/2008 5:19:28 PM
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BookOfFire (this topic's creator)11/4/2008 5:19:37 PM
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I recently met someone off of this site about two weeks ago. Our first "date" was pretty good. We had a good time at a bar with a few drinks and singing. I take her home and depart ways.
The next day I showed up at her work with a dozen roses and my entire body shaking because I've never done anything like that spontaneously before. She was totally speechless as was I. We gave each other a hug then I went home.
We then met again on Halloween. We went to her house and handed out candy to the kids and at about 10pm we decided to go to a local concert. We had a great time. One of the moments I remember from that was me telling her that I missed her. She replied, how do you know you missed me? I placed her hand on my heart and said this is how I know. We then after a bit more of dancing and singing and having a good time go back to her house and I sleep over the night and then leave at 5am for work.
We meet again and decide to go out to a national park. We just sat and enjoyed the view while I was teaching her how to cast the fishing pole. 
I gave her a note there. I told her not to open it until we parted ways for the night. It read "You have my heart"
No matter how much I showed her I cared for her she just kind of shrugged it off and now I had to tell her that I'm worried that she just wants something other than a relationship and that when she finds out what in her life she needs then she can come tell me.. until then I can't stand to be near her feeling the way I feel about her and her not feeling the same way about me.. *shrugs* Does that make me a bad guy?
I just don't know if she was out for a FWB or what.. *shrugs* I guess being a gentleman sometimes isn't enough...
JoJet 11/4/2008 6:09:36 PM
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You a "bad guy" ???? NOPE...not even. Moving a little too fast is probably more like it. Not many better ways to freak a person out than to pour out your feelings too soon, especially if they are just out of a relationship. I know it's hard to hold back when you feel that way about someone, but it's best not to show your entire hand too quickly. There is something to be said for playing a little hard to get. ;-) Good luck to you.
Cristobalito 11/4/2008 6:23:58 PM
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a dozen rozes AT her work-place after your first date???
DUDE - say it with....
C
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C
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!!
(or cash)
BookOfFire (this topic's creator)11/4/2008 6:41:43 PM
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lol @ cristo ur my hero!
Cimmaron 11/4/2008 8:43:35 PM
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As funny and right on as Cristo is, You ought to look up what women think about most.. even during sex..... It's chocolate bro.
BookOfFire (this topic's creator)11/6/2008 8:15:54 PM
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Nah man, we had a sit down tonight and she's not ready for a relationship. She is talking to like 10 guys at once so ya... anyways *dies*
WebcamMostie 11/10/2008 9:04:27 AM
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I agree with Jo, moving too fast- even if you felt that way about her, which is fine, you can't let her know that- I know, I know- women.
Someone did that to me a few years ago, and it wasn't that I was just out of a relationship, but he came at me so fast and hard, that it made me somewhat cringe- I think the reason it did that, was because A) I knew initially that he wasn't "right" for me to begin with, and B)He was so head over heels and I knew it couldn't be because he felt that way about me as a person, he didn't even really know me-
So...next time, regardless of how you feel, hold back on it for a while- it'll work out better that way- and stay away from the ones who are talking to 10 guys, lol-
Cimmaron 11/11/2008 11:01:11 PM
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I don't get it!
Recently I had a similar problem, but for some reason we didn't even get to meet. I don't know, I thought I was doing well and I can't imagine why didn't even get past the introduction stage.
Here's how my little online fling went:
This woman wrote to me first and asked if I had another photo, since she couldn't really see my face. Once again proving my point that is shopping and we're all just produce here.
So, I had a couple of photos taken for her.. and as I went to upload them up for her I realized that I hadn't even met her and already she had me running around for her.
I wrote that to her and she wrote back that she was a nice sweet person who wouldn't make anyone run around for her..
And I thought about romance and ...sigh.. wrote this in reply:
"I think it's the beauty of the woman's heart, that inspires a man's heart to move in a
constant quest to create something magical for her.
By the way, what's your credit card number?"
And she never wrote back.. am I missing something here?
Rollo_Quarters 11/11/2008 11:04:09 PM
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Maybe she's in bankrupcy?
WebcamMostie 11/12/2008 2:09:44 PM
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Nah, he was just moving too fast- HA!
Cimmaron 11/12/2008 11:18:11 PM
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Really???
Which part was I doing wrong?
Was it uploading my photos too soon or telling her that she was making me do things even though I hadn't met her yet?
And you know Rollo, I hadn't thought about the bankruptcy angle. Maybe she was just being polite?
Chai 11/12/2008 11:38:35 PM
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I think it was the two miss matched socks you have on. I can tell by the look in your eye in your new photo you are trying to hide that fact.
Cimmaron 11/12/2008 11:57:41 PM
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WHY??? Why must you always publicly expose me like this, Chai???
CaptainCorelli 11/13/2008 12:00:11 AM
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That's easy, Cimm. If you exposed yourSELF, your profile would be banned.
Not only that, but "you could shoot your eye out, kid!" lol
Cimmaron 11/13/2008 12:00:32 AM
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Next thing you'll be doing is letting everyone know that their two mismatched socks from the left foot...
Cimmaron 11/13/2008 12:00:54 AM
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DOH!!!!
Cimmaron 11/13/2008 12:01:46 AM
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ahhahhahahaha!! Captain, I just missed that post!!!
Hunter_Rep 11/13/2008 1:05:47 AM
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did ya atleast get some? cause if so then WOOHOO!
WebcamMostie 11/13/2008 6:22:33 AM
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It's the voices, Chai- they aren't even telling him about the socks, they are giving him false information- nothing worse than lying voices...!
ManhattanBabe 11/13/2008 6:31:00 PM
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Book of fire, wow you are def. moving to fast. a women will run for the hills.you need to pace yourself, i would hold off on the roses and going to a womens work place, she might think your a stalker. You def. are a romantic, but you need to hold back and get to know a person much longer, before you jump the gun. Secondly you need to realize that even if she talking on line to you she can dating others and talk to others also. Plus you have put her in a awkward situation by stating about how you felt. Step back have fun enjoy your dates and take your time to get to know a person.I wish you all the best.
Cimmaron 11/14/2008 10:31:44 PM
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F..king lying voices! I hate those guys!!!!
Hunter_Rep 11/17/2008 12:35:44 AM
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i would like to contribute to this conversation but i can not, the squirrels are watching
CaptainCorelli 11/17/2008 10:42:37 AM
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I don't trust those damned squirrels, they're very devious, and very territorial. Around here they're black squirrels, and they throw nuts at you when you walk under their trees. Last night, I walked under one, and just before I got pelted, I heard "OYYY", and a thousand of the ****ers sprung up from the branches, Scottish Damn Squirrels, just like in "Open Season."
(I'm thinking of trading up for a Flamethrower)
Hunter_Rep 11/18/2008 12:38:12 AM
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i think the one who lives outside my house has been keeping files on me capt. he may work for the CIA
Xethian 12/8/2008 12:02:21 PM
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It saves so much time, money and energy if you just walk up to women in the grocery store and ask them to marry you. New women several times per visit, and you never have to spend money on them. Little if any emotional attachment, and she can't stalk you and vice versa, since you know nothing about each other. Perfect relationship.
Cimmaron 12/9/2008 11:07:55 PM
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When I used to try the sympathy thing when I went shopping.... you know the lost shopper who doesn't know his way around the store.
But for some reason, asking "where the toast is?" doesn't seem to work.
Lisa4631 12/11/2008 8:37:26 PM
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Sexy.
Hunter_Rep 12/12/2008 6:20:46 PM
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Lisa, i need that snake, i think the squirell that works for the cia outside my house is plotting against me
Twice_baked_taders 12/13/2008 3:19:13 AM
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I say if you treat love like making a fine wine you can't go wrong.
1) Know your ingredients!
Keep in mind the intended bouquet, color and the intended outcome on the pallet.
2) Allow time for proper ferment and clarification.
A healthy head of lasting intoxication less the headache is worth the wait!
3) AGE = body, integrity, character.
love mellows in time to bring a soft warm glow to the pallet of the heart.
The ambiance of life. 
Enjoying a fine home ferment of the heart as I type ;P
DorkFishKatie 4/14/2009 4:32:46 AM
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I personally hate when a guy moves in too fast like that. I start to feel suffocated and smothered. It's better to be friends and be yourself. if it's ment to be, it will happen. I have one word for you next time...BRAKES!!!!!
Hunter_Rep 4/15/2009 3:22:42 AM
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speaking of brakes, i think that damn squirrel may have tried to cut mine, i saw him poking around my truck with a knife in his fury little paw.
MsButteryNipples 4/26/2009 7:41:05 PM
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lmao hunter, ya goof!
If just one feels that spark and the other doesn't, there is no amount of time that is right. When both feel it, WHAMMO! there is no such thing as moving too fast.
I met my hunny three years ago and we have been together since. Except for a brief couple weeks last year when he had lost his mind, we have been together since the first time we kissed. He told me the second date he loved me. It works for us because we were looking for the same thing at the same time. We were both done "shopping" and ready for the checkout lane..... lol
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