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Is it ok to do innocent flirtation even if you are married, have bf/gf or dating someone else?
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Wildmonkeyboy (this topic's creator)
12/15/2008 12:03:08 PM
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WebcamMostie
12/22/2008 8:34:19 AM
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Just remember how you would feel if your significant other were doing the exact same thing.
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jelestra
12/28/2008 8:08:23 PM
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I think it's fine to have a light flirtation, as long as it isn't taken too far. Those I tend to flirt with are long time friends who know it's all in good fun, and that I am not looking for a fling. They know me well enough to know if I were looking for a fling I would come right out and say so, not beat around the bush about it.
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Xethian
12/28/2008 8:46:12 PM
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The answer to the question depends on what your answer is to the following question:

Think of your life now. WHat you do everyday, with your current partner, with your kids, where you live, what you do. DO you want that to change in the blink of an eye?

If the answer is "No", then the answer to the flirtation question is no, it is never ok.

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mysticct
12/28/2008 8:49:03 PM
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Flirtation is human nature. What really matters is what 2 in a relationship agree upon. The communication in a relationship is far more important than if you flirt.
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robbi642
12/29/2008 6:54:33 PM
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Define flirt.......then maybe we can discuss it.....smile I was accused of that one time, not sure she was right though.......lol
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yaredo
1/3/2009 3:22:21 AM
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innocent flirtation this two word doesn't even go together there is no flirt which is an innocent whom are we kidding here we flirt to to get some so why flirt if you don't wanna get some cause even if you just flirting how do you think the other person feels do you think that he/she will take it as innocent flirtation may be yes or may no so don't tempt others unless if you want to go all the way

my advice is if you are married or have a BF/GF don't do that cause its like playing with fire you will get burned and if you still have that kind of fantasy get over it soon cause the idea of being married is to be with that one person ,love that person and flirt with that person

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yaredo
1/3/2009 3:26:28 AM
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innocent flirtation this two word doesn't even go together there is no flirt which is an innocent whom are we kidding here we flirt to to get some so why flirt if you don't wanna get some cause even if you just flirting how do you think the other person feels do you think that he/she will take it as innocent flirtation may be yes or may no so don't tempt others unless if you want to go all the way

my advice is if you are married or have a BF/GF don't do that cause its like playing with fire you will get burned and if you still have that kind of fantasy get over it soon cause the idea of being married is to be with that one person ,love that person and flirt with that person

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drgnsoldr1
1/8/2009 1:26:37 AM
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i agree with mysticct,flirtation is human nature.i am a hopeless flirt but keep 2 things in mind...first and foremost its all in good fun,secondly...i love my wife dearly and am NOT about to change or risk what i have with her.
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sasyy
3/26/2009 4:05:28 AM
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flirting is ok as long as its innocent and dosnt hurt any 1 else
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DorkFishKatie
4/14/2009 5:36:01 PM
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my personal opinion, and yes i'm aware that opinions and assholes are the same, that everyone has one and they all stink, BUT...If you are maried, you should be flirting with your wife. if you're engaged, in a common law relationship, etc, the same applies, HOWEVER, if you are just bf/gf flirting is allowed
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Hunter_Rep
4/15/2009 3:27:30 AM
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flirting with my wife gets me nowhere, heck the other day i tried flirting with myself, but my hand still rejected me
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DorkFishKatie
4/15/2009 4:57:28 AM
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maybe if you weren't creepy, and your wife wasn't a blow up doll you might get somewhere! I"m kidding. BUT seriously I stand by my opinion
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adamslt
4/15/2009 7:30:18 AM
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Is it ok? I guess one would have to wonder how ones wife or girlfriend would feel about it,and how would i feel if my wife or girlfriend was flirting with another man?

when i was married i averted my eyes from other women to honor my wife,and to keep from having accidents with other women,if i were dating a woman who was flirting with other men,i'd quickly and quietly lose interest in her,...i'm surprised even that the question would be asked,...well maybe not...it just seems to me indicative of how our modern western minds our always looking for loopholes to make excuses for ourselves

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tck_beachbum
4/15/2009 11:16:18 AM
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Innocent flirtation = let's see what develops while pretending not to.

End result hopefully = sex.

(By the way... 'innocent flirtation' is a favorite pasttime of a cougar.)

wink

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Hunter_Rep
4/15/2009 6:08:31 PM
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if i wasnt creepy and a little wierd then i wouldnt be in this place, mingles is not for the sane or faint of heart.
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Hunter_Rep
4/15/2009 6:11:29 PM
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and there are several people on this site that are married, but we have been here for so long that we stay for our friends. and we all have gotten to know each other quit well so we are comfortable with flirting with each other.
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DorkFishKatie
4/15/2009 6:20:11 PM
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i wasn't critisizing, just curious!
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Hunter_Rep
4/16/2009 12:53:17 AM
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yer just jelouse cause no one has asked to see yer boobs yet
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DorkFishKatie
4/16/2009 12:55:43 AM
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uh whatever you say hunter! I don't want a guy who just wants to use me as a sex object and an image for his love sessions with rosy palmer. I want a guy who loves ALLL of me. A guy asking me to see my boobs, is a HUGE turn off.
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Hunter_Rep
4/16/2009 3:07:00 AM
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see you just need to learn to have fun in here and when some one is joking with you, i am not using you, or is anyone else as a sex object. do not think you know me or anyone else in here by what they type. check yer religious beliefs at the door when ya enter this place.
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john40
4/19/2009 2:56:14 PM
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harmless flirtations don't matter in here, as long as your up front with being married and your not tring to jump in the sack with someone......Right???

It's all in good fun.

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steve_dawson
8/16/2009 4:04:13 PM
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Thy highest allegiance, except God, shall be to thy wife, not thy relatives or friends. (Gen 2:24)

1. How often does the husband honor his blood family over his own wife?

2. Such is a recipe for disaster!

3. In-law problems are often the result of a husband who allows his mother and father to interfere in his relationship with his wife.

Thou shalt frequently tell thy wife how important & valuable she is to thee. (Phil 2:3; Prov 31:10-11)

Thou shalt hold thy wife's love by the same means that thou won it. (SOS 5:10-16)

1. Men persue their future bride with doting ceaseless attention. Once married the husband views marriage as a goal accomplished an on to other of life's challenges. He then gives his ceaseless doting attention to the job, the boys or anything but his wife. She on the other hand viewed marriage not as a goal met, but as the beginning of a relationship. She viewed his doting attention as a down payment of attentions to come. He viewed it as a means to merely get her to say "I DO".

2. This guy really WON the love of his future wife. He looked good because he groomed his appearance for her. He smelled good, because he regularly bathed and gargled. And he spoke words of "sweetness" to his love. But give many husbands a few years of marriage and they let their appearance and hygiene slip. But worst of all the sweetness towards their wife is gone. The wife proclaims to her friends, "Did he ever change after we said 'I do'!" Guys, if you want the nights to be hot, you best start warming up your wife in the day with words of kindness.

3. Buy your wife flowers on a regular basis.

Thou shalt actively establish family discipline with thy wife's help. (2 Timothy 3:15; Ephesians 6:4; Deuteronomy 6:6-9)

1. Few would argue that the wife is the primary parent involved in the daily task of interacting with the children. But God has placed the father as the head of the household and that means that you must work hard along side of your wife in establishing family discipline. Many fathers leave the majority of the work of raising the kids up to the wife. In child custody cases, the mother almost always get control of the kids, not because she is a better parent, but because she is the one who has been most involved with them. God commands fathers in Ephesians 6:4 "And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." You must be directly involved with your children. And then be careful not to "provoke" them to anger, because you have not really taken the time to understand exactly what happened and why. Some fathers alienate their children because they hastily dish out too harsh a punishment because they want to get back to their TV show or reading the paper. To these husbands, children are an interruption imposed upon him by the wife. Sad indeed.

2. Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. Prov 22:6

3. POEM: "PLEASE, DADDY, WON'T YOU GO?"

o A little girl's bright shining eyes with face aglow,

o Says: "Daddy, It's time for church-Let's Go!

o They teach us there of Jesus' love, of how he died for all,

o Upon the cruel cross to save those who on Him will call."

o "Oh, no," said Daddy, "Not today. I've worked hard all week,

o And I must have one day of rest; and I'm going to the creek.

o For there I can relax and rest; and fishing is fine they say.

o So run along; don't bother me, we'll go to church some day."

o Well months and years have passed away,

o but Daddy hears that plea no more;

o "Let's go to Bible school." Those childhood days are over.

o And Daddy's grown old, life's almost through,

o He finds time to go to church, but what does daughter do?

o She says: "Oh Daddy, not today-I stayed up half the night;

o I know you know that church can wait...you understand my plight!

o Then Daddy lifts a trembling hand to brush away the tears,

o As again he hears the pleading voice, distinctly through the years.

o He sees a small girl's shining face upturned, with eyes aglow,

o As she says, "It's time for Bible school; please,

o Daddy, won't you go?"

o (Author Unknown)

Thou shalt remember to do all the little things for thy wife when you say you will. (Mt 5:37)

1. Jesus instructs all Christians, "let your statement be, 'Yes, yes' or 'No, no' and anything beyond these is of evil." Mt 5:37. Husbands, when you say you will do something for your wife, have the consideration to do it! Why should she justifiably nag you?

2. Your wife shouldn't have to get you to sign some binding oath to get you to make the bed, take out the garbage or take her out to dinner as you agreed. By doing what you say you will, you earn her trust in other areas.

3. Ever wonder why your wife reacts is a funny way?

Wife's Reaction

Husband's Action

When the wife feels insecure.

The husband is not being a spiritual leader.

When the wife takes matters into her own hands and assumes the leadership role.

The husband has allowed problems to continue and even get worse.

When the children rebel, the wife blames her husband.

The husband has not supported his wife in disciplining the children.

When the wife becomes resentful of financial pressures.

The husband has been spending extra money on things he enjoys.

When the wife feels inferior and jealous.

The husband praises or admires other women.

When the wife feels unable to totally give herself (body, soul and spirit) to her husband.

The husband only verbalizes his love when he wants a physical relationship.

When the wife feels frustration from not knowing how to please her husband.

The husband doesn't praise her for specific things.

When the wife turns to others who will listen to her true feelings.

The husband doesn't make the time to listen to his wife.

When the wife feels unprotected.

The husband has not been alert to the dangers which his wife faces.

When the wife feels inadequate in trying to meet her husband's physical needs.

The husband has been lusting after other women.

When a wife mentally gives up and loses all hope

The husband is prideful, never in the wrong, loses his temper to stay in control and never asks for forgiveness.

Keep thine eyes on thy own wife, not thy neighbors. (Prov 5:15-20; Job 31:1; Jer 5:8)

1. The Proverbs writer says it this way, "Drink water from your own cistern, And fresh water from your own well... Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love." Prov 5:15-20

2. The ultimate sacrifice that a woman makes in child bearing is her figure. And the media is filled with 17 year old models who are not yet graduated high school and never done a hard days work in their life!

3. Job was wise when he said, "I Have made a covenant with my eyes; How then could I gaze at a virgin?"

4. Job 31:1 But we find that for many, the words of Jeremiah apply, "They were well-fed lusty horses, Each one neighing after his neighbor's wife." Jer 5:8

Thou shalt make every effort to see things from thy wife's point of view. (Gen 21:12)

1. Abraham is a man whose wife actually called him "lord". Sarah had an insight on a personal family matter and Abraham felt that she was wrong. "But God said to Abraham, "Do not be distressed because of the lad and your maid; whatever Sarah tells you, listen to her" Gen 21:12. Did you catch that? God told Abraham to obey his wife! He had not taken the time to see things from her point of view. Husbands and wives often live and think in different worlds. A wise husband will "listen" to his wife before God steps in and forces him to. Foolish husbands are arrogant "power-tripper

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namcazam
9/3/2009 6:31:45 PM
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If you are married, or in a relationship. I believe flirting is a form of cheating. Having friends is one thing. But flirting around in RL or even over the internet is wrong.
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