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(Welcome to the forum Dustin, congrats on post #1.)

I think I would track down Jennifer Aniston and/or Taylor Swift.

well i said realistic sheesh lol

a heart attack can take you out in a moment....

live with elegance and integrity

savour the abundance from every little thing

find out that rather than dying you are now actually living !

because nothing is taken for granted

ever again

i have been diagnosed with a terminal disease

it was being born human! lol

i was seriously ill though lol

and even 'died'

but well here i am

who knows how that happens

i was ready...i had made peace

and then yoink !

sheesh

but what i own now is priceless because honestly , to imagine that we can cling to one side or the other is like saying a rain drop guides the direction of the storm

we are here

i am here and it makes no sense at all

but we are.

so i laugh and play with my daughter alot

i am home for a season

i was shot in the field a year ago

sort of a slap in the face that i am still mortal..lol

and i lost a colleague and dear friend and that was the kicker

so i say LIVE with humour and grace and make every opportunity to DO 'thank you' to all those you have a process with

adieu

Have a lobsta, go over the will, then pray...

depends on the situation. but assuredly gather ALL of my family and friends around me and tell them how much i love them.then try and do a couple things ive always wanted to do. helicopter flight...maybe even skydive one time.

thanks drgn

Oh and spank Dustin... he's been very very bad.

Leave it to you Clear to put your spin on things.

So let me explain to you as I would to a child:

Live your life to the best of your ability. Your light will shine and people that want to know why will come to you. Be a witness by living the word.

he has no need to prove anything , and he doesn't know me at all, i consider this respectful, you love to grandstand with your belief system...i think that lacks humility and respect, because it has a counter affect...do not taunt him... maybe you could see him as an example

My apologies Dustin, I know this was suppose to be a fun and interesting thread with no bible thumping neccessary.

Not sure who you are adressing there Bl8ant...

if it is to me... I am a gal!

ty and no need to apologise been waiting for him and i dont mind deleting lol

and no this is not supposed to be fun i guess insightful would be a better description for it lol ty all

No TY Dustin!

and star ya can spank me any time ya know that lol

LOL *has the paddle handy*

hey now you know the rule no paddle grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

hehehehhe

i dont normally bite star normally i nibble alot but you come near me with that paddle and grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr your mine

I just went last night to see the movie....7 pounds. Gives one alot to think about. But, I guess if I knew I was on my way out, I would try my best to right any wrongs and to ensure everyone close to me is taken care of. I would also have a huge gathering of friends and family and try to explain that I would like them to celebrate my life, not mourn my death. We're all here for a reason, when that reason is fulfilled, we move on.....

well robbie in my will says anyone crying gets kicked out of the kegger

no sign of intellegent life was found in the clearwaters

LOL, Dustin......I think I may borrow that line.......

*makes a note to add that to the will*

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im serious that is in my will no joke lol

Ah... so you have learnt to respect Toy, imatation is the purest form of flattery!

????

I was talking to Clear Robbie. Immitation... egads I need a nap

what would i do if i knew i were gonna die soon?

hmmmmm.

no one wants to die alone. so i think i would take a couple of people with me on the way out.

*Does not want to know who*

sheesh lmao biker but someo ppl that arent that evil dont have that choice

i think id have sex with as many women as i could lol

Ya know I was voted in high school most likely to die from a multitude of orgasmic spasms

well biker thanks for that grossly barbariac line lol

thanks all for your input

sure thing Mr. Dustin. welcome to mingles.

have a happy new year

lol

I am not different from most people who dont want to die and yet ironically I have found myself wishing for a different life to live. Accepting something that I dont want is extremely difficult but yet peace comes after acceptance and so I am learning that I should not put off acceptance. After acceptance, I would focus on what I really want to do with my life. I would make a list of things that are important to me and begin fulfilling those things. That list may not be important to anyone else and so I would be careful not to allow someone else to influence what I feel, want or do with the time I have. What is important to me is to feel peace. Being at peace with me and those that I love would become my focus. Being as best prepared and preparing others would add to the peace that I would want. I would start a special tradition that would be upright and worthy of being continued in my memory that would be a reminder to those I love that I once walked here with them. As the days grew longer... I would ask my friends and family to write me one of their best memories or funny stories of me and I would take those memories on paper and organize it and make comments back to each of them that would be read as part of my memorial with music that I picked. However, until the inevitable day arrived I would celebrate sunrises, lots of smiles, and bring on as much life with all its craziness while I had it. I would learn how to replace bitterness with gratefulness and I would make sure that those I love knew how grateful I am for them. God bless anyone who is dealing with this reality to turn to anyone who has the power to bring a smile or better, laughter to your life. Go out laughing... with a good supply of the finest of chocolate on the nightstand!

I for one, wouldn't spend it jumping out of a plane to see what that's like.

After all the legal work was done, the urn picked out and a little sorting of things to give away, I would write a few letters to loved ones and make a few videos for my son to watch at later dates. If health permitted, I would take my son and travel to some of our favorite places (Kona, Puerto Vallarta, Collins Montana, Boulder Colorado). I would find peace in the sunsets and as I slip away, my son's brown eyes would be the last thing I would see.

ty all and ty very much mlady made me cry

I would be kind to everyone i met on my path, no matter if they were an a**hole or not... and try to take a Mediterranean Cruise with my entire family.

Mlady you post is some funny junk,its all about YOU ,very self centred ,you are just like the people of the world,you would stoop so low as to ask people to write some thing nice about you? ROTFL thats a real gut buster,and then have them read them ,you are wacked out totally,you would maked a list of all the things important to you? I guess Christ is not on that List,LOL,really light up another one just like the other one. You are lost in your own world/Satans

It could be beneficial to leave his post up, so that all can see what a mean-spirited, cruel "Satanic" asshole this jerk is.

Mlady you post is some funny junk,its all about you ,very self centred ,you are just like the people of the world,you would stoop so low as to ask people to write some thing nice about you? ROTFL thats a real gut buster,and then have them read them ,you are wacked out totally,you would maked a list of all the things important to you? I guess Christ is not on that List,LOL,really light up another one just like the other one.

I find it interesting how some people who bible thump the loudest are the most insensitive pricks around. Clearwater, you need to take Buford Pusser's advice...preach quietly, but don't be a big prick.

Its extremely obvious to EVERYONE except you clearwaters that you are the only odd one in here and regardless of how many people tell you - you just keep displaying your lack of intelligence and your limitless stupidity. Like everyone has already told you - your opinion is not valued. Unfortunaelty you just keep embarrasing yourself repeatedly hoping someone cares about what YOU think. The depth of your insecurities need professional help Clearwaters... and here you are in Mingles trying to validate yourself. People with mental illness never figure out how embarrasing they are to themselves even with the whole world telling it to them. How textbook you are.

*standing ovation for Mlady*

you already did - thanks!

star you are just as wacked as mlady,maybe you want to write a nice letter for her,and them frame it send it to her so she has it before she go's thet way she can make the ajustments as needed ,after all- its all about her she should get to read it ,why don't go have your body made of wax so that to can stay around and maybe they can pray to you ,sence you believe you are god.? YA HOOOO

you know what clear youy are the dumbest most selfcentered egotistcal bigot there is

i asked in my forum for these answers if ya dont like them stay the hell out of them and quit focusing on Mlady_calgary cant help it your so focused on her but get over it you moron and like i said ya dont like it stay the hell out of my forums with your dumbass answer

oh and muddywaters remeber god dont like ugly ya jackass

Maybe if we wash his mouth out with soap (that has been blessed of course)...

I really like your idea Mlady for two obvious reasons. One, you would be reminded (or even told as you may not have known initially) of how you touched others lives. The other reason I like your idea is that it makes someone's passing easier on those left behind. Not to be morbid, but 'arrangements' are hard on everyone dealing with a death. This way everyone would know exactly what you wanted them to do. Pretty thoughtful and considerate, if you ask me.

I would spend every moment I could with the people I love and care about. I would not think about death but enjoy the time I have left with my loved ones. I would tell everyone I love, "I love you" and die having no regrets as life is too short for regret!

Took ur advice, checked out this forum stuff, u should c what I wrote. Mb relevant

well about time ya took advice on something class - j/k lol

Thanks Frckid1

Like others, I have walked the road of grief and mourning more than once. I have learned the value in telling the person while they are alive of my fond memories with them. It made it easier on me to deal with all the I wish I would have said... as time passed by. Memorial services are about the people left alive. Since all of those who are closest to me know that I am all about smiles and humour it would be my style to end with what I did best while I was alive, to laugh at life together! Not only would their story bring me a smile during my last days, but my response (my spin) back to them would encourage that smile of theirs to surface just like we did in life together. I would leave that smile with them knowing it was only til we meet again

clear your a imbecile

I have to admit, that I would settle the legal affairs as best I could.

Then, I'd follow spunky and write letters to loved ones.

I would also send special christmas ornaments to them, they have an amazing one called Merry Christmas from Heaven.... as I got one this year in honor of my father.

I would have a photograph sent with each ornament of me and the one receiving the gift.

For me, the memories are more important but I would also try to spend as much quality time as I could with everyone.

I think its important to live your life now as if you only have a short amount of time left to live instead of making a lot of changes "if" you find out you have a short amount of time left. You truly never know how much time you have and if you wait until you think it is your time, you have truly wasted a lot of time.

tyvm bumfuzzle

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While there are many places I'd like to see during my life, and just as many things I'd like to learn and experience, when it comes right down to it, none of that would matter to me. My only concern would be for my children. I'd need to know they would be able to go on without me, to have love and security always. I'd spend every momen posible with them, and hope that in the end they'd know they were always my everything. Everything that had made my life wonderful, and beautiful, and worthwhile. Then I would be able to die with peace, grace, and dignity. (I hope they know all this anyway. I do try to tell them daily how much they mean to me.)

Pray

i want to thank everyone for there responses to this as some of you know and lot of you dont i found out i have inoperabel cancer as of today i will be put on chemoradiation intrveinoulsy and all that can do is stop the growth your words and ideas have helped me in a very tuff time here so again ty very much i look forward to still having fun with yall

and no for a few ppl i know will comment i am not saying this for pity or anything im saying it so my freindds know and how i will be doing as i go so to those few that wanna post negative usless remarks i have no use for them and ya can kiss my ass for all you others let the party continue

I am truly sorry, Dustin.

I was going to post something slightly frivolous but I guess I'd sell my home, take the $$$ I have and go somewhere I really wanted to be.

thanks keerok

im on a island right now so quiet lol

As you know Dustin, I knew this about you before you posted the forum. My post was to you. There are people who will want to share with you their thoughts and memories of you right now but hesitate to in fear it may upset you. If you invite them to do it it can be a heartfelt love shared between you and them. Live life and give thanks to God for each new "sunrise." None of us know when the last sunrise will be. You have the opportunity to share your life with those you love knowing each day is a gift with much more awareness than most. And like I said to you... you are not alone. Some of us are survivors and continue to break the normal pattern that doctors dont understand and so have faith in each new day and leave all fear behind you. You are not alone Dustin!

Dustin, I'm incredibly sorry and feel for you.

I recently lost my father, and I can tell you that some of the most important things to me were having my own time with him before he went.... lots of photos, and talking. Of course, I don't know if it was as important to Dad as it was to me, but eventually with loss, time sort of helps fade hurt and pain. I am very fortunate to have a bevy of pictures so that I an my children can always look back on a smiling picture of Dad/Grandpa. it really helps. I also have my father's ashes in a small cylinder around my neck resting against my heart, as well as a charm of his thumbprint. These might be more geared towards ... after... but they have helped greatly in the recent months. Tomorrow will be 4 months exactly that he's been gone. Every minute I have had to share is a moment more I will have to treasure.

I wish you the best and hope you have an amazing support system and great family and friends to hang with.

mlady you where my first friend on here adn ya have abeen a great confidant to me hun and i truuly appreciate allt he words of wisdom and the courage to go face that demon

ty slinky i am terrably sorry for you loss and dont forget as i have learned when ya need them there are some greta ppl on mingles

and please ignore all my typos lately ppl

Dustin, I've made some wonderful friends here.

When one is given a time limit, it's the now that matters, not tomorrow and the next day.

I was pleased when my dad finally went back home to Greece. His family sent him here at the age of 14 for a better life. He died at 71 and had gone back for the first time ever in 2007. I wish he would have spent more time, but he took 3 months.

If there is no chance of it being operable, which I saw you state it isn't, you might consider forgoing the chemo. I watched chemo do horrible things to family members and I can't find anything good for it. MY father made the choice to stop. He was 90% cancerous when he passed. It just utterly consumed him. The chemo kept him in agony. He did get his medical marijuana license and was on liquid morpheine and some anti nausea. It's all about YOUR comfort. Don't let the doc's snow ya.

It's funny how life makes you re-evaluate what is important, and what is trivial nonsense.

Do the things that you've wanted to always do, if it is within your means.

my email is my name at hotmail if you ever feel like chatting.

ShawnMarie

well this is injected into my veins oit is called chemoradition therapy it will stop it from growing and is 90 pct they said and if i dont stop it from growing then its a worse sitaution

Did I know we shared the same first name Slinky??

Dustin, hang in there. Get the best care you can get. And because I'm a nosey Nellie, can I ask - are they hoping with chemo radiation it will not just stop its' growth, but shrink whatever type this is enough to make it operable? I have seen this happen before, but if you mentioned the type of cancer this is, I missed it. And please feel free to tell me nunya...I wouldn't be offended in the least.

Much as Buffy would like people to believe our prayers 'don't count', I'll be praying for ya. Hang tough big guy!

thats wher eit got a lil strange frckld and i sdont mind your asking

all i know is they have one the paper here that it is only in 5% of ppl get it and out of those 5% 95% are smokers they have it listed as " throat cancer caused by unknow oringins" the iv chemoradiation is to stop very growth since part of it is wrapped around my carotid artery

but ty for your questions right now i am still finding out more

slinkybrew@hotmail is what i meant.

Frck - you know, as long as we both have been here I don't think I ever did know that?

I really wish you all the best with the chemorad. I hope it works.

If I ever hit the lottery big time, I'd go into the medical field and find other options, or I would fight the VA clinic to USE other alternative methods for cancer besides just chemo, surgery and radiation. Because there are alternatives out there.

They seem pretty repressed medically.

Remember, the biggest part of success is your mind. I know the fighting gets mentally 10000000000% exhausting and utterly depleting. I was with my dad through it all you know. Take all the support you have at your disposal, because you will need others to be strong for you when you can't. Keep strong.

thanks i aint giving up got a few promises to keep and i have yet to break one these will be tough and enough nto keep me going plus i am stubborn as hell and dont like docs telling me shit lol

sorry put wrong dates down am supposed to start my therapy on the 12 am not looking forward to it

dustin, you are totally in my prayers my friend... and then anytime ya wanna go to vegas, just HOLLA! {{hugs}}

lol thanks hun i appreciate it good news is they said i wont lose much hair and may lose more weight lol then we can both go out in the snow in swim suits lmao

hey Dustin. I feel for ya. i had cancer about 2 years ago. i wish ya the best.

thanks biker

I would fly to amsterdam and proceed to get blitzed.

lol thanks michael if i went to amsterdam i would end up getting in biiiiiiiiig trouble

hey my friend u know eventually id want to add a post on here, i told u before that my mom passed away a few yrs ago from cancer after fightin for @20yrs n the sayin she liked n i do too is, Dont count every minute but make every minute count, well back to the topic, i guess if i knew i had only a short time to live ,id thank God for lettin me know the time i truely have to right the wrongs n to do as many of the things that we put off day in and day out by takin for granted that were invincible n our time we have and ours wont come anytime soon. Id try to live each day i had with the knowledge that when alls truely said and done i could look back and not have regrets and that those that knew and loved me knew that i loved them too. Dont ever give up the fight, ur friends and those that love u never will. Ever.

well lil ty hun and its becuase of a few ppl that i met on here that i decided it could kiss my ass instead of kickin it so ty for everything

Can I paddle it???

(((hugs)))

ya can spank it spank it real good

*tries out the new power paddle*

I would finally sit and figure out how many licks it takes to get to the tootsie roll center of a tootsie pop. Bill

see i cant be gay

i cant suck on anything longer then 10 seconds with out biting so like the owl 1,2,3 crunch

Dustin_N_NC pointed out

"see i cant be gay

i cant suck on anything longer then 10 seconds with out biting so like the owl 1,2,3 crunch"

Well at least you gave it your best shot. Sucking on something for at least 10 seconds should at least get you some respect from the gay community.

is that from experince mine was just hard candy???????lol

i'd go to disney world lol

had that chance and turned it down cause wasnt feeling the greatest at the time but ty

and listen to some country will do you good

you know dustin i went through my share of 'medical issues' in which i've already shared here on mingles on a thread about ovarian cancer. so i can relate. i too appreciate what you wrote mlady and i remember wanting to do and doing those similiar types of things. the only thing that i would have to differently is to spend as much time as possible with my twin sister before i were to depart. and in that time, i would love for us to take a cruise in a big yacht around the world with one another (watching every sunrise and sunset, go swimming with dolphins, visiting exotic places, and meeting as many interesting people as possible)... sounds corny, but i know that i would die happy and she would be ok. im not worried about the rest of the world b/c they would still have atleast one of us to carry on... and she is one of the greatest persons alive.

ty MsA the hardest problem i had was accepting am sorry that you had to go through it is definetly not the best thing to happen but guess everything is for a reason tho i know not why.i am gonna live by my terms noone elses now tho i probally wont make the best decisions not that i did in the first place lol ty for sharing with me MsA and i am sure i can say this you will always be around i hearts and memories

to all those that have become my friend

I want you to be happy when I'm gone.

When you mourn me, make your mourning bright,

Adjusting what you long for to the light.

need you love the less what has passed on.

The art of memory is celebration,

a happinenss that turns sorrow into song,

Opening a heart forever young

Upon the unmade bed of its creation.

so celebrate my life, and not my death,

Begging that my suffering might end

Even as I fight for every breath.

Hold onto me with unresentful tears,

A testament to what we've learned of love,

Years as rich and full as were our years

and remeber becuase of you

i was happy,i was befriended

but most of all

I WAS LOVED

and it was all you love and caring that made it possable

my new theme song

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mHaFMqde6A

for you dustin...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkuqHwobn6w

ty MsA

after 22 years of sobriety,,I'd go out on a bender,,,,will someone please hide my truck keys...

kind of did that last night

*hides the truck keys*

Praying for you Dusty!

ty hun

I dont honestly know but I do try to live today as if its the last coz tomorrow isnt promised to anyone.

And because I know I've cheated death on so many occasions- all these days are gifts.

"I dont mind dying, I just dont want to be there when it happens" Woody Allen