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Is this really a new day and age where older women are finally getting their revenge on the old cliche' of older men and younger women.Let's just say I hope so!

I still have not seen this nearly as often as I have seen young women and old men.

I think this will not largely change for the reason that... In my opinion and from everything that I have observed, women are more likely to be interested in older men than younger men. They want someone that they percieve as more mature, not LESS.

"Sugar Mommy" just doesn't have the same ring to it as "Sugar Daddy".

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Madonna and Guy Ritchie. Your old high school English teacher and... your best buddy?! Hey, it could happen. These days, if an older woman wants a baby, she can have one.

There will always be the Traditional Tina, scoping out an older fella whos "on her maturity level" as she likes to think- and who's willing to play provider. But what of the ever-growing population of footloose women with their crazy cradle-robbing ways? Is this another Maggie May, who, as Rod Stewart tells it, will "wreck your bed, and in the morning kick you in the head?" Or is she some lonely desperado, hoping to latch on to a kinder, gentler generation of men? Here are some insights as to why some women prefer to date younger guys.

Not every girl wants a father figure. Often, a man whos older than you assumes a protective and paternal role; and to many women, this is a real turn-off. Why? Well, for starters, we already have a daddy! Not to mention, the woman who holds a high-paying exec job Monday through Friday may have some trouble playing Helpless Heather on the weekends. She's used to taking care of herself, speaking on her own behalf, and yes, even paying her own way without the help of Daddy Warbucks.

Younger men are often better in bed. Ahh, the cruel irony of life. Remember sex with your college girlfriend? That 21-year-old fraidy cat is now a tigress of temptation. Something funny happens to women as they age. Their testosterone levels increase; oddly enough, around the same time that mens are plummeting. The hormone surge gives ladies a libido lift, which is why women in their 30s and 40s just want to get busy. Meanwhile, our same-age male counterparts are busy studying the inside of their eyelids. Need I say more?

Younger guys look up to an older, successful woman. Lets talk about those corporate power babes again. Sometimes, it's lonely at the top... but not when there's a starry-eyed cutie-pie smiling up at you! There's something to be said for having a younger guy who admires you for your accomplishments. It makes you feel great, and the sad fact is, you cant always get that kind of respect from an older man. Baby Boomers may love Donna Reed, but guys born later can understand and better appreciate women who go after their dreams.

Girls just want to have fun. Some of us are downright immature, and were not afraid to say it! Perhaps "young at heart" is the better term, but the point is this: some old gals really do just want to have fun. Lots of broads who are pushing forty still rock out at concerts, drive 70 mph with the top down, stay out all night, flip people off when necessary, and generally wreak havoc. Thats not to say we cant find a man of ANY age to engage in juvenile antics with us... but, well, the younger ones just seem more willing to join in the fun.

Some women are late bloomers. Embarrassing as it may be, plenty of chicks spend the better part of their 20s mired in self-doubt and confusion. Instead of kicking back like they should have, the rain clouds of pessimism hung around to dampen their fun and turn them into neurotic freaks. Ten years later, some of those very same basket cases have mellowed into chill ladies who are just now ready to embrace life to the fullest. If this involves cavorting with young fellas in ways they never thought possible, all the better! Better late than never, right girls?

Guys in their prime are ohhhh, so fine. If you had to choose between a thick, juicy steak and some shriveled up beef jerky, which one would you pick? In the same way that men can't help looking at supple young girls, we ladies find ourselves drawn to guys under thirty. Younger men have tight bodies, bright eyes, great smiles, and usually a crowd of buddies to keep them laughing and pumped for excitement. What's the alternative? The balding bachelor with a beer gut who sits home smoking stogies and listening to Springsteen's Glory Days on repeat mode? No, thanks!

In all seriousness, it shouldnt matter the age of two people who mutually respect and enjoy each others company. We love who we love, not matter what their age or what they look like. If an older woman and a younger man feel comfortable having a relationship, then no one has the right to criticize them. To the lady who simply likes a quick fling with a hot young stallion? Heres to you, Mrs. Robinson.

Well put Manhatten Babe!It is true women reach their sexual peek at the same age men are picking out their favorite chair.I for one have mostly dated older women and found the rewards to be incredible.Older women have always found that secret spot inside me that most younger women haven't taken the time to explore.I'm not putting down younger women...younger women have their advantages as well.I'm just speaking from my own experience.They tend to round out the whole essence of what being a women is all about ie:Nurturing,confident,wise,experienced and more in touch with their female essence.Most younger women are still growing into their own experience of womenhood..which is not a bad thing!I'm just saying the rewards of being with an older women reap alot of benifits for younger men who wish to take that road.

But you are right..love is love no matter what the age, race or circumstance may be!

lol manny!

My own personal take on the "older woman/younger man"--- I've never been one to be interested in someone younger, well, a LOT younger- for the simple reason that I don't have much in common with someone younger. Not so much as far as "interests", and things like that go, but more along the lines of life experience- I don't want some younger guy to "look up" to me- I have kids, the oldest of which is almost 28- I've been "around the block" a FEW times in my life, and at one point, I did get involved with someone a decade younger- to my dismay, he was not only younger, but immature for his age as well (which just intensified to me the reason that I don't like to be involved with younger guys)- for some weird reason, I was supposed to be "flattered" that a younger guy was interested, and gosh, sorry, but I just wasn't-lol.

I prefer someone my own age- that way, when I bring up the song "Afternoon Delight" to laugh about it, or to talk about songs that were popular when I was in high school, or laugh about high waist jeans, and "big hair"....they know what the hell I'm talking about- LOL

ok..good point Webcam,but again that is your experience.I'm 36 and have been with women in their late 40's and early 50's and could laugh about "Afternoon Delight" and "what the hell ever happend to Welcome Back Kotter"?You see the truth lies within the eye of the beholder.When i was in my early 20's I dated a women twice my age and even though we did not have alot of the same experiences..we still found a commom ground.Now I'm not saying that is true for all..but I am saying there are alot of pro's to the con's of older younger relationships.If a male is immature that is unfortunate...but there are alot of younger men who are not.I find this topic very intresting because I see a shift in the way these relationships are heading.I love that it is considerd acceptable these days for an older women to pursue younger men.Older men have been doing it for years..mabey Older women have to but it was not that acceptable to talk about.Now it is and I think it's great!By the way.."Afternoon Delight" still cracks me up to this day!

That has to be one of THE most horrid songs ever written, lol-

EXCEPT....maybe for (I want to say Paul Anka?) "Having My Baby"--

omg...that one is bad-haha

On topic of age - been there and done it - have dated younger, same age and older. I care about the age factor somewhat, as long as it is within a decade or so either way. I can always find a common ground with all people, but there is a generation gap that I respect and want to keep between me and my children's age or my father's age. I personally start questioning complete generation gaps! Oh yes, of course people are adaptable to most things but I, for one, dont even want to except or even ask my children to adapt to me being involved with someone their age that they should be friends with, and the same goes for my parent's age group. We can always find something to laugh at and be serious with in any age... but being on the same page together as EVERY year passes by is important to me remembering that things change with time and age. When I was 24 it would be sickly insane and impossible for me to even think about going on a date with a 14 year old. Now that I'm 48 (for one more month lol) does it matter much if he is 38 or 58? Nope. I wanna laugh and cry with someone who can laugh and cry with me and understand why. That comes from life's experiences rather than a birth year (hopefully lol). Generation gaps change perspectives on life and I want to be in the ballpark of someone who more or less is seeing life from the perspective of my generation.

Think about it, just in the area of parenting, if youre a grandparent now, and begin again with a first time parent... pure havoc! lol One has learned what to panic about and what to brush off... and that perspective runs high risks of clashing big time with the other. One of many examples that cross my mind on the topic.

Point well taken Mlady!I find it so intresting to hear these different perspectives on my topic.Now ofcourse anyone under the age of 18 is certainly not what I am speaking of here,but when I was in my early 20's I was with a women twice my age and have to say..I remember that experience fondly.I wouldn't change that for anything in the world.I respect the fact that you wouldn't want to date someone your children's age(again if they are older than 18),but that's not to say that some people can't and have a wonderful experience,as I did.I truly appreciate your comment on my post..it certainly is food for thought.Love and Light my friend!

When I was in the first grade I wanted to finger my first grade teacher.

When i was in first grade I wanted to finger paint TCK!Now second grade...that's a whole other story my friend.I guess I was a late bloomer!

I have a son who is 28 yrs old and so I am not referencing "children" under 18 here - that would be in the pedophile department and thank God we have laws to somewhat govern that. I am speaking about "generation" perspectives. The other thing here is, short term or long term relationships? Of course, short term relationships can be wonderful, and I think most have experienced that. Sometimes they can be left at "wonderful" because... well, they are short term and easier to make wonderful since it is a shorter timeframe to sustain. However, I'm thinking and responding to something that is "typical or common" in the human search for a long term "lifetime" relationship.

We are all running our own race on the topic of wanting to love someone and be loved back in a relationship of equality, respect, trust and understanding. Remember, things change if one is running a 100 meter dash vs. the lifetime marathon run! So I guess, whatever event we are engaged in, will present different aspects, but one thing for sure is that relationships are heaven and hell, joy and pain, sweet and bitter and knowing "typical" contributors to the pros and cons of them, be it short term or long term, are important, or rather vital if you will, to explore. So, knowing your event (short term vs. long term) is the first step and then exploring the realities of life in that!

Good luck - when it comes to the topic of love and relationships... not much is impossible (or void of debate!)

(But, my "perspective" has brought me to my reality that I tend to fit into the "norm" and become a statistic rather than breaking all odds! lol)

So douchebag,how many different guys did you have babies for?

Paul Anka's song "having my baby" should have been anthem for you!

nice forum salvo!

Ms. Pammy?

Can we play 'teacher' sometime?

Mlady,Mlady!You are a well thought out women!I love when you speak of opposits(heaven,hell..pain,joy)!This life is duality..how could we know hot if there wasn't cold, how could we know joy if there wasn't pain.So sometimes older and younger are a self image of the other.In all honesty it comes down to the individual person..some could see themselves in a long term relationship with an older or younger person.Some ..such as yourself cannot.I myself tend to "break all odds" than become "the norm"..but then again my mother droped me on my head when I was a child..LOL!!!!Love your posts Mlady!

Thanks Toyman!And thanks TCK for the laugh!

Toyboy, is all that oil in your hair fresh from the Middle East, or did you forget and grease the wrong head again? No wonder you rub people the wrong way. Give my love to Allah!

Toyman...

I know your having "issues" over there... but calling tck names is well... juvenile... and not necesarry at all. And that bit about babies with guys is another thread in itself. My guess is that tck is not up to having your baby regardless of how many times you play Paul Anka's song to him... if that is where youre going with it?!? lol

People People!Please stick to the issues in my forum.I love freedom of speech but feel responsible here since I started this thread!I mean no harm to you all..but seriously..let a young man chat with an older women.Peace,Love and Light!

mlady,

my comments had nothing to do with tck!

my comments had everything to do with a douchebag! she knows who she is!

salvo,this is typical of douchebags and their consorts! its always the same with these people..its un-fortunate it had to happen in this lovely forum but thats just the way these losers operate..

capt coocoo,i have hair to grease and you dont! so whats your point?

Okay... time for me to head back to my Trivia thread and waste some time on the meaninglessly interesting facts in the world or maybe back to Name that Tune thread where "Everybody Knows Your Name!" LOL

Thanks Salvo36

(PS. Peace,Love and Light and Mingles don't mesh! But I welcome the effort!)

****So douchebag,how many different guys did you have babies for?

Paul Anka's song "having my baby" should have been anthem for you!****

...So, who's following who, here? LOL

I think he's obsessed....toy, I mean- LOL

No,

I think you are a douchebag^ webcammostie!

Alright guys.I'm asking nicley.Please stop that shit on here.I mean I do find it a little amusing but honestly...this is a thread about older women and younger men.I absolutley respect you both..but you can email each other with that stuff.Damn...now I sound like my parents....mabey i am getting old and have no right even starting this thread.Seriously..I like the both of you...I mean no direspect!

None taken! Shes all yours salvo!

Mostie doesn't need toys...she's got herself a real man, lol.

Love ya baby!

This is getting too funny....you realize a 36 year old is asking you all to stop acting like children on this thread.Now Captain..I realize Mostie is your wife and I respect you honoring her..that is admirable.And Mostie..I've seen you and Toy go at it on other threads so I see where you are comming from.Toy...you have never been disrespectful to me so I won't be to you either and I love your passion on these threads!So...the three of you i want to thank for this little heated exchange..but just think......someone a decade younger than you all is asking you to behave on here.So there is nothing left for me to do but end with a joke.

Q)How do you make a tissue dance?

A)you put a little boogie in it!

Now the three of you..."Go To Your Rooms"

Hey I happen to and always have prefered an older Lady

I have to say there were a few younger men in my past. I am glad I dated them, I am also glad they moved on. My reason, the differences were attractive at first. It only took a few months to have those differences become obstacles.

I have heard that older women with false teeth can take them out to provide certain... well... 'pleasures'.

But I have not had the opportunity to enjoy the experience (yet).

Salvo, not a problem- if you'll notice, I didn't start this little bit of drama, but for whatever reason, Toy keeps following me around and making snide, crude comments when I post- I try to humor him whenever possible, lol

Salvo... I realize you respect people here, and I know how terrible that feeling must be.

Just try and relax with the knowledge that you won't respect anyone here too much longer.

LOL

(P.S. Any of you women out there have false teeth?)

I'm changing my profile, looking for: Older woman 120-150 years old. So I can honestly post in this thread. **Traveling to Venus in search of**

cougars have always been around. Women are no different then men. We all want sex till the die we die ya hooooooooooooooooooooooo

Also remeber men or women. the younger the better as long as its legal.

LOL...tck...now that was funny.

Tck... I think that may be the first thing I can say that I agree with you on... with the exception of those who are respectable... and "WE" are few and far in between! lol

Cougars!

I just awoke to quite a few extra posts on my thread.I have come to the conclusion that I am surrendering to the insanity and kicking back with a cup of cofffee to enjoy the show.Let the games begin.All is fair in Love and Posts!

Priceless salvo36!!! Welcome to Mingles LOLOL

Salvo36, you sure your not Tck's twin brother...

Good posts and I agree with the crowd that age isn't a big deal once you are in mid life. When I was 15-30 I preferred older.....at 30 (midlife crisis?) I started dating younger. After failing at relationships I gave up and started looking for a woman with a boat....at least I could fish.....then at 40 I figured I'd better find a younger one......so I'd have someone to push my wheelchair when I get to that part of life. Now as God has a sense of humor, he brought Jules into my life. 12 years my junior and although we knew each other from a distance we never thought remotely about dating one another...well, maybe I did a little, but she definitely didn't. Long story short, Jules and I were made for each other. Bonus...she's young enough to push my wheelchair AND she wants me to get a boat because it turns out she likes fishing, which she never did much of before me. She also now likes NASCAR which she didn't even know existed before me. I'm such a lucky guy....but, the humor part is, Jules develops back trouble and an operation follows.....no pushing a wheelchair for that woman.....damn!! But, I'm still a lucky man and the 12 year difference is not a problem in our relationship....

The true answer lies in simple math.

80 goes into 20 "0" times. But 20 goes into 60 "3" times.

I agree with most answers here. the ones that are mature. It all depends on the individual, not the group anyway. But I asked the question earlier on the chat, just looking for opinions. But I do have my preference. And I just cant seem to bring myself to get involved with someone 18 years younger than me. Hell, when I was 18, he was coming out of his moms belly. Thats gross to think about. But depending on the situation, if he is 10 or 12 years younger, at my age now, then thats fine for ME. But if I was 40 and he was 20, then I wouldnt be confortable with that. So again, its your personal preference.

Robb-o, be glad that there are electric wheelchairs these days-LOL

Older men like younger women because they're afraid of death...younger women like older men because they're afraid of life.

Cougars are coming down from the mountain tops and into the suburbs in pursuit of cubs.

Cougar power!

Cougars have V8s in them, so I predict they will win. No way the cubs outrun them, and it's common knowledge that they can't hit worth a damn so when they are caught, they're done for.

LOL.....Mostie.....yup.....and I've been looking at how I can superpower one of those babies......I wanna be able to burn rubber......LOL