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Well, how can anybody figure out if the person is bogus or not? Take a look at these example:

http://www.mingles.com/smith4real2

http://www.mingles.com/lovingyousomuch

Exactly the same picture, different profiles. Is there anyway, these can be filtered in mingles and find out who are scammers or plain fooling around!

Thats one way, by grace of luck match two profiles like that. I get in trouble if I try to answer that question nelson. Just be diligent and very careful. There are real people on here. Good luck and welcome.

Watch for clues. Errors in syntax, little things such as a profile that says the person lives in the U.S. but their first language is clearly not English (not perfect but a start: there are legitimate people who are not English speakers either). Another clue is if they send you a message that mentions nothing about your profile. Also, if they give you an e-mail ot IM address right away and don't want to communicate through Mingles e-mail to start with, they are probably scammers.

Invite someone into the chatroom and kindly explain the first step: CAM UP or SHUT UP! If a person excuses themselves to death of reasons why they cant get a $20.00 cam at Walmart - they are on the "Hey hows it going - see ya!" list. Start there and believe me... that is only Step One!

(I swear, I could write a book on this topic!)

Thanks a lot for the advices. I accidentally bumped into the first profile. Guess being a trained researcher pays! The second identity sent me via mingles.com; then later was asking to chat via yahoo, then later was asking me to let him visit me,then wanted to view me via my webcam, and was demanding for my phone and address. I asked him to put himself in my situation and if he wants to give his phone and address, and said "he is cautious about giving his identity". So there goes my answer too!

The guy is a jerk, he was demanding me to show feelings and affection toward him when I only "know" him for 2 days! Talk about being dishonest and a liar!

I also told him I could easily locate him and find his real identity, that must scared him. Just can't trust people now a days.

From Pamela's post:

"Invite someone into the chatroom and kindly explain the first step: CAM UP or SHUT UP! If a person excuses themselves to death of reasons why they cant get a $20.00 cam at Walmart - they are on the "Hey hows it going - see ya!" list. Start there and believe me... that is only Step One!"

No exceptions to this rule if you are thinking about being more than chat friends.

(I've seen WAY too many people believe what they WANT to believe instead of seeking the truth.)

SuperBubba is only a fragment of your imagination.

tck_beachbum,

Thanks for the advice, a guy named tony_wilson13 was trying to get in touch with me via my yahoo chat. He said his profile was removed -per his request- so I followed your advice about web cam and dump him!

So what's with the guys trying to hide behind screen names and fake identities? Scared?

i dont have a webcam, but on principle i cant very well be bullied into getting one. i am doubly screwed. i guess ill have to get a stuffed animal to talk to. or a few dozen cats

Also 'Jamal20' and 'Josef12' (they showed up in the line-up of pics when I signed in)

Mello - unless you're serious about meeting someone a webcam doesn't matter.

Nobody is going to 'bully' someone into getting a cam unless they are a child - mature adults don't get 'bullied' into anything.

But if a person is serious about meeting someone, the first thing that person should do is remove all doubt as to their 'realness' and appear on cam.

I know I feel a whole lot more at ease when someone shows me up front they've got nothing to hide. And I know others feel that way too.

The fake profile problems we used to have here are 100% gone when we use the video feature.

heyyyyy......i have a '20 dollar wal-mart cam' and i look like hell on it....gimme a break..........let me have my fantasy.........

tell me more about mature adults...i'll need the info if o'm ever going to pass myself off as one

LOL @ bullied into getting a cam??

If you don't have a cam and you have no interest in meeting up with anyone - if you are a drop in chatter or forum posting person only, than no cam will get what you're wanting out of an online site. BUT that is not what this forum is asking about -> how to tell if someone is real -> start off by knowing if they are male or female REGARDLESS of what the "say" they are what they are and see it for yourself regardless of how they describe themselves... like i said -> STEP ONE ONLY! Why the heck would anyone spend a dollar to meet another person in life or give any information about themselves to ANYONE until you have had ample time chatting for FREE and seeing each other from a distance FIRST! And believe me - I cannot over emphasize that is the FIRST and most basic STEP!

i don't have a web cam, but i don't want to meet anyone either. i likes it that way

i can see you're not going to give on this, and i know you're right. last time i went on a blind date it turned out to be a forty-four year old man using some russian girl's picture so i did what any self respecting person would - i paid for dinner and hit it anyway

mello. great minds think alike!

im lonely, not picky

Back to topic I completely agree those imposters should be banned from the site. I get sick of my picture being used on calendar pages and perfume ads by someone called Beiron something.

grrrrrrrrrrr

LOL Michael.

Back on topic. Just be careful. Don't give out your yahoo or hotmail e-mail right away. If someone asks for your e-mail, politely decline and tell them that you'd prefer to use Mingle's mail system for the first while.

If they only have one photo on their profile and it is obviously professionally done and posed, its a clue as well that soemthing's not kosher. People who have candid shots, and a number of them are more likely to be "real."

Look for clues in their correspondence that shows that they have actually read whtever you have written. Many of these "scammers" use "copy/pasted" form letters.

If you join the chat room, a camera is a good idea, but there are other ways to ensure that someone is on the up-and-up. I don't use a camera myself but I do play tunes for people and have spoken to many folks. I think they know from my behaviour that I'm "real."

And of course there's plenty of people who require HELLA proof before they'll believe you're NOT fake! lol

All in all, patience with a decent measure of cynicism is the best defense

Here's a letter I just received. From the language and syntax it is easy to tell that this person is not living "in usa in a country town." This e-mail was probably written by someone whose first language is Russian and is clearly using a dictionary.

__________________________________________________________________________

From: abbaseto me

Sent: 6/20/2009 10:03:44 AM

Subject: hellohello dear man! I have become interested yours profile and you. I am 39 years old single women! I live in usa in a country town. I not spoilt girl. I kind, tender, cheerful, opened, fair. I am family orientated lady who is tired of shallow dating; I am looking for something deeper. If you trust in old-fashioned values and have a happy arrangement, I would like to divide dreams and to possess a life with you. I shall wait for your answer to mine email if I have interested you. My email: abbase_4u@yahoo.com u can also add me to yur yahoo mesenger so that e talk much better there thanks

Some people seem to think I am unreal at times.

Just curious, Lisa... would you consider yourself to be a fine piece of hot tail?

Mr White! Were have you been hiding?

The parties helped a bit with this (before the run on on web-chat). A nose-to-nose is always best, but not always affordable or timely.

At least there was someone else to vouch for the "real person".

I will make it to one of these legendary parties one of these days!

And T, I see you've upgraded the language - is it our anniversary or something?

I haven't seen you in chat lately so I had to ask here.

(You're supposed to say, "Do you really expect me to answer that?"

Meet Mercy200910

looking for that special one !!!!!!!!!

my name Mercy, am single, right now am searching for a true love,a man who will care and love me but not for what i am worth, I am a sensitive, intelligent, patient and caring person. I am giving, outgoing, have a good sense of humor and am easy to get on with. I am a faithful and commitment person, who is very considerate of other people's feelings.

- - - - - - - -

Real?

"love me but not for what i am worth"

Ha!

Wow that really sucks! I had no idea how many fake profiles there are on internet, wow why? Some people out there just ruin it for everybody. I get very annoyed when people ask me if i am real or not! But i guess i understand better now since i ve been on this site (this is the first and only site like this i ve ever had a profile on). I dont really agree with the whole webcam thing, but that is just me. I would never feel comfortable knowing some stranger is staring at me while we are talking, i wouldnt do it, unless not until we have talked for a long time and i feel somewhat cofortable with them. But i am not really anxious to meet anybody so i guess it doesnt matter.