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with money being so tight these days why are there not more plural marriages these days,I know its not the guys stopping this new concept, what is it with the women that prevents progress

i think what you're saying is still just a little ahead of its time - couples these days just dont want to commit. sure, its all fine when your hands are tied behind your back and they put that rubber mask thing on your head and your job is to clean the whip cream from places it shouldn't be, but as soon as i start talking long-term suddenly everybody's got PTA meetings and poker games to go to.

that, and one person is bound to get screwed on the tax situation under the current legislative definition of marriage in most states

I don't mind commitment. I'm just not into sharing.

I happen to know several polyamorous people that are currently practicing monogamy in their new relationships. Why? The women in the relationships are polyamorous. The MEN are the ones that don't want to share!

I think it also has to do with current laws, tax and otherwise. There are places in this country that it is illegal (on 'moral' grounds) for unmarried people of opposite sexes to live in the same residence no matter how many bedrooms and bathrooms there may be. Add a third person or more into the situation and things just multiply. It can also get you fired for violation of a morals clause in an employment contract... and it doesn't have to be specified. All the contract has to say is that you are representing the image of the company at all times and they can terminate your employment if they disagree with your behavior or stated beliefs.

First of all its hard to find a decent partner, who want the same things that you do. Secondly sharing, it hard enough to keep a relationship going these days with two people let alone three. I dont believe in sharing.

hey, i can't hang on to one woman as it is. with two, it would be over twice as fast.

just sayin'

Did everyone read this person's profile? I read it, and I have to admit, it's irritating as hell- so, "Scott", tell me...is it Jackie AND you who want to bring a third person in? Or is it mostly you, which I suspect it is? From the looks of the pictures you have posted, Jackie looks as if she adores you, which you should be thankful for. And I would guess that maybe "Jackie" is going along with the game plan. Of course, I could be totally wrong, here...but then again, you might think she is going along with it, and happy with the idea, because perhaps that's what she wants you to think, in order to please you. The fact that you are asking for someone who is "submissive" leads me to believe that your wife is probably ALSO submissive, and that this is what you want- someone who doesn't question you, or what you do.

What a pompous ass.

Why not bring a third MAN into the relationship, instead? A "submissive" man, perhaps? I think what I find disturbing about a situation such as this, is the fact that usually, one of the people in the relationship is doing it solely for the other, more dominant person- and they don't really want it at all. Again, I could be wrong- maybe your wife really DOES like this sort of setup- but for the most part, I think that women, in general, such as the ones who've already posted, like monogamy- because, after all...isn't that what makes a relationship special? Giving yourself to one other person, and respecting that person enough to KEEP it that way? If this is the way you like things, you should probably be single, and hanging out in bars to find women like this (maybe even 3 or 4 at a time..!)

How completely disrespectful you are...to yourself, AND to your wife, and any poor "submissive" sap who hooks up with you two-