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In this day and age, I think that unless it is agreed to go Dutch, the rule of thumb is that the inviter should pay.

If i couldnt afford to pay the bill,i wouldnt dream of taking the woman out,...but if i asked a woman "can i take you out?" then she pulled out her money at some part of the date,i would be shocked,...taking her out,is synonymous with "my treat" or "on me"

just like opening the truck door for her,picking her up from wherever she's at,driving,opening every door we come too,...cmon dang it,men are men and women are women.

i guess ive heard some guys in chat say that if they pay for the date,they expect the woman to put out for them,i think thats terrible,and immature,and it helps me understand why a woman would be uncomfortable allowing a man to pay,in order that she may not feel obligated,...but hopefully a woman would know a mans character a little better than that before going out on a date with him.

i have a daughter who will be 7 in july,she is beautiful,..and when she is older,and allows a man the privilige of taking her out,i better not hear anything about him not paying,not opening doors,putting her first,and treating her like the lady she is,sure she is capable of opening her own doors,but she's a princess,shes special,and she absolutely better be treated as such.

When I was dating, if I did the asking and arranging for the date, I made it clear I was also paying. Well before the date. That way if there was an issue, it had the time to be cleared up before hand. I was met by shock a couple times. Some may try to take advantage of that arrangement. One got pissy that I didn't pull out my wallet for a "dutch" pay for miniature golf, even though I had said lunch was my treat, he picked and I would pay. He decided he had a large breakfast and didn't want lunch. Took a raincheck and never cashed in.lol

Now when Night and I go out now, official dress up dates, he pays. And I get the royal treatment. If we are out casual, lunch at Burger King, I may pay. Drove him nuts to start but I figure... if the object of dating is to find a partner you may want to spend the rest of your life with, the relationship is eventually 50/50 in everything. Give or take 30-40% either way some days. Why not start out on even ground. The one doing the asking foots the bill, and it is decided beforehand.

The one who extends the invite should pay (or at least, expect to). One who invites others on an outing of any sort and expects someone else to pay has a really poor sense of ettiquette in my opinion.

As for "going Dutch", unless it was agreed upon from the beginning, it can be perceived as an insult to the other party(ies). (i.e. on a date, I would take it as a sign of rejection and at a business lunch, it would be a sign of disgrace so as to say "Don't do me any favors!".)

wow...i keep hearing about the one who invites should pay,as if its common knowledge that everyone should know or something,...where do you all learn this stuff? honestly,im not being sarcastic,do people from the city have a class they take on modern political correctness or is there some book that you all have in common?

i really want to know...again im not trying to poke fun or anything,

but ive never even heard of a woman asking a man out,im very familiar with women flirting so hard,and even throwing themselves at a man to make him ask them out,in my life women always made the first move,but they would get me to ask them out

LOL. I suppose the "first date" is still usually requested by the guy. But that isn't the only situation where this might become an issue. I have a female friend who i sometimes go to dinner with. Sometimes she asks me, sometimes I ask her. If she asks, she's paying, and vice-versa.

I've never paid, even if I was the asker - the issue has never arose of someone expecting me to pay - but I guess IF I needed to I always have a credit card... I have never given this question much thought before.

Go dutch when feeling fat , broke and washd up