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cherrygirl1976! i think i am in love with you.

Go Cherry Go!

Very well written cherry! Some of us 'women' are mature enough to know it's always a bad idea to 'blow off' a friend over a man or vise versa. But on the flip side, some are still learning...the hard way. But such is the life of the Internet...Deception.

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Wow, I'm feeling somewhat illiterate tonight, because I had a difficult time figuring out just what it was that had happened up there---I'm guessing it has something to do with a boyfriend who "cyber-cheated" or something? And that's just a guess....shoot guys, it's Monday, I'm not on my game yet- that doesn't usually happen till Wednesday, lol!

hey, no disrespect for anyone....but when u cant prove u r real, than maybe u arnt? we all have faith, but not the amount it takes to live a life in the dark, lol......we all have the right to be informed, and if you dont show urself, than i think u have something to hide...i dont shit on any1 here, but a web-cam is a simple thing, and like i saw in another forum, "you dont cam up, than gtf out"....its true....if u like a person soooooooo much, than get a ****ing cam....sheesh......not that hard...20$ for a possable soulmate?...............LOL, peanuts........

Mostie girl I find that hard to believe that your not on your game till Wens..

As for my 2 cents.. Men come and go and your girlfriends are FOREVER!!! It has been proven to me over and over again..

Someone get scammed?

well cherry i have to agree with you in the up most ways, i can also as well say i saw this coming for a while and i let it be known over and over again and i see it happening again. In fact i have already started the count down lol. Sad thing is at times this is also what it takes to show true friends, as they think they are great friends but they are only people that are there when its good for them to be there not when you need it most. So what can we do? What do we do? Ill stick to my rule of ****em all. Yes i also agree some people need to grow up and stop being so high pedestalled (typo im sure) and come back to the real world and the mellow dramatic life is just childish and stupid, fortunatly enough i saw that before i got into the chain to deep. But you know the best satisfaction is when everything else ails and the "friends" come crawling back to you because in the end you are all they had to lean on when needed. Just remember to smile alot and say i told you so before you get to finally turn your back.

In the words from the west "Holy Cow!" Hmmm, but I was born in the east and over there it was "Holy Mackerel!" Hovwever, no matter where I was from or where I am living now, all I can say is "Holy Moly" I have no idea what is happening and am glad of it! I try to stop by the chat room on the "occasion" (okay, okay.. daily) and I try to keep up with the forums (except sport related ones) but I'm lost as to the who, what, where, and when of things AGAIN! Now this is making me wonder about those days when the chat room seems slow - a lot of whispering must have been going on or what cause I have missed the whole thing!

All I will say is what I taught my children when they were growing up - a person has the right to choose to act or say anything they want without anyone's approval - they just don't get to pick the consequences that follow - it's always a good idea to think about the consequences of one's actions or words before the consequences start flying! Now... if there are problemo's going on in the chat room - I can do my regular tour guide thing AGAIN and take a few extra seconds on the BLOCK feature!

"So this is pretty much a rant because I have things to say but am honoring a request to stay out of things....."

Cherry babeeee... I'm glad you stayed out of this and kept it on the downlow.

One can only guess the who, what, and so on. Regardless of these points, very well spoken. Relationships do come and go, this is true. But the ones shared over a box of tissues and a carton (or two) of Ben and Jerry's from time to time is what keeps us from walking around in tutu's and straight jackets. This reminds me, I need to check in with my sister of the heart more often. Thanks Cherry.

Drama in Mingles land? no way. say it aint so?

'snot true rep - simply 'snot true....

Now this has nothing to do with the drama - but look at the stars everyone has besides their name and I still have 3! The same amount I have almost a year ago - does that represent age? LOL

well said Cherry, sometimes people tend to wear those rose colored glasses,all for the sake of having a bf or gf, no matter what they say or do to them.

"should have their scrotum peeled away from their testicles and lemon juice sponge baths while they are healing. "

"Any person that preys on the weakness of the heart"

Any person?

You forgot the part about the ovaries.

I have a different view. We all must learn the ropes of life in our own time and our own way. The only rule is there are no rules. Some people simply have to get burned more than others to learn a healthy respect. Some never seem to learn. Some are willing to live with things others find intolerable. Adults make choices, consequences happen.

It's all good because there simply is no other way.

There is behavior I personally will simply never engage in. I and others like me do not have respect for those who do. However It's not our journey and our point of view is irrelevant to the persons who make their own choices.

May they find their way.

"Pretend People Breaking Hearts"

Until you see them on cam that's exactly what they are: 'pretend people'.

Webb is 100% correct in his post "but when u cant prove u r real, than maybe u arnt?".

Don't take anyone too seriously until you see them on cam.

(And don't take me too seriously even if you do see me on cam, I'm just pretending to be a person. )

lol tck.....

OK so I am moving the original post to my blog. It is upsetting the person it was meant to defend...

I posted this without her knowledge because I SAW the consequences of somebody elses choice first hand. Its not pretty watch a heart break no matter the reason.

Twice_baked_taders ....

I agree that it is not limited to one gender. However... at the time of posting I was angry and it was directed to a specific focal point.

Everybody gets their heart broken but when it is fairly obvious that there is a total disregard for the consequences... of another persons response... and the things said are ABUSIVE I get passionate.

I have been in an abusive relationship. Nobody deserves to be treated that way regardless of gender.

Let's all get undressed now, okay? And show each other our appreciation for one another.

I love everyone in Mingles....!

I tried to post in your other blog cherry but it wouldn't let me??? So I sent you my response by email.

"Everybody gets their heart broken but when it is fairly obvious that there is a total "disregard for the consequences... of another persons response... and the things said are ABUSIVE I get passionate.

I have been in an abusive relationship. Nobody deserves to be treated that way regardless of gender."

Yes, and the question I and others ask is why one would do that to themselves.

When things smell F U B A R cut to the chase and move on.

lesson learned. People do not fit into your mold. You must learn to read them and choose wisely....or not

The key is to finally realize that YOUR in the driver seat. No one else is responsible.

No one else is to blame.

Twice_baked_taders,

There are a lot of reasons that come into play as to "why one would do that to themselves" oh if only life was that simple as you described twice-baked. I hope for you that since things seem so clear to you NOW that in time your answers now remain that clear - once you have walked a mile in someone's shoes! Yes, I once saw things clearly too (I thought). LOL

I have now learned there isn't ONE generic answer to fit all situations and circumstances. Abuse comes in many disguises and varying degrees. Each person has their own tolerance level toward what "they" FEEL is abuse. What I call abuse is not the same for others and vice versa and thus the grey zones of cloudiness begin and clarity becomes not so clear anymore. A broken bone, a bruise, a push, a threat, yelling, name calling, silence, facial expressions, ignoring, hounding, ranting, comparing, trying to change someone into something they are not, belittling, abandonment, withholding kindness or love, etc, etc, etc. Oh how the list is HUGE and the details of each scenario are so different with their varying degrees.

Usually the reason why someone stays in an "abusive" relationship is because they love that person and they believe their words when they are told how sorry the person is and how hard they will try to break away from the behaviour that is hurting the other, etc. Often when children are involved and the abuse doesn't directly affect the children - the abused spouse feels commitment to the whole "family." Or they stay in the relationship out of fear - fear is a big one (fear of being alone, unlovable, making it on their own, or pure fear of the abusive person, etc, etc, etc). There are so many real reasons and the "safety level" of a person can affect the timeframe needed to sort through it all. If a safety issue is at hand the "getting out" can be immediate vs living with someone who belittles you but not all the time. Grey zones Twice_baked_taders!!! Reality is that each person usually arrives to their tolerance level sooner or later and once pushed passed the line - they will take action (usually). Love is a strong emotion and has ability to see past abusive "behaviours" and allow for change and forgiveness when the severity level to them doesn't seem as clear cut as a broken bone!

I tread carefully on this subject and for sure will not provide a GENERIC answer or "judgement" to anyone on it.

Okay, let's all pretend to get undressed now, okay? And pretend to show how much we love each other!

I love everyone at Mingles...!

Okay, let's all pretend to get undressed now, okay? And pretend to show how much we love each other!

I love everyone at Mingles...!

In fact... let's do it twice! (Sorry about that. )

Yes well... I didn't STAY in an abusive relationship. He threatened my kids with a broken rake handle one time and I stepped in between.... After that is mission kick his ass out. It took me a month and him trying to put me through a wall while pregnant to get him out. Just cuz you say leave doesn't mean somebody will. If they are on the lease then legally (at least here ) he has as much right as myself to be there. Legal actions take time.

Sometimes people don't recognize verbal abuse as abuse in and of itself.

TCK..... I am all ready pretending...hows about you?

The original post wouldn't save to my blog for some reason hmmmm

Cherry babbeeeeee... we all love you here. That's what's REAL...!

Incidentally, who broke the rake? And you're looking good in that pic, are you losing weight?

He broke the rake. He was mad cuz the 3 yr old and 5 yr old left the hose on.

LOL TCK... maybe....

Hey... Have you been working out TCK...

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe dammmmmmmmmmmmmmmn.......................i was gonna comment..........i forgot the topic...........now i gotta go allll the way back to the top