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Great question there, Rickster. I like a man with little to say, just sit there and look good... lol

You are in a long term relationship with a girlfriend or wife. You suspect she is having an affair with a coworker, so you confront her. She admits to one of the following scenarios, BUT NOT BOTH. She has had oral sex with this guy, or she has had sexual intercourse with this guy. What scenario would bother you more? Although my sister in law disagrees with me, I find oral sex to be much more intimate than intercourse, and the idea of some guy's pecker in the mouth of my long term girlfriend or wife might just end our relationship.

Sorry about the above comment. I realize I am not one of the guys but still putting in my two cents worth.

Imho, the questions shouldn't be what for of sex but, do you trust her? Without trust, why bother?

Either way, she's gone... painful but necessary.

I pretty much assume that when a chick gets naked with a guy for intercourse there's gonna be some 69 involved (maybe I assume too much, lol, but 99.9% of the time I'm with a naked chick there's 69 involved) so just a blowjob, or, a blowjob and sex, are both WAY out of bounds - I wouldn't want her around anymore.

If the guy was takin care of business properly, he wouldn't have to worry about his gf blowin some guy. That said, either would piss me off equally.

Either would end any relationship I was in equally fast.

Make some moves to secure you own wealth and property first, get some head and boot her ass out after you blow your load.

Okay Rickster... I'm stuck on you and your sister-in-law talking about this LOL... in my family - the siblings talk about weather, business and how the family is doing... and may I add we don't talk frequent about those matters either. lol

Just an added note:

Before I tossed her out I would tie her up and buttfvck her, lol, then order pizza.

(And let the pizza guy have a shot at her too.)

Basically before you ever let any chick go you have to know in your mind that there is nothing any guy can ever do with her that you haven't already done. That way if you ever see her out with another guy you can just smile. )

Cheating is cheating, out the door with her.

Rickster, it "just might" end your relationship with her???

heh heh heh, that was great-

rick,i wouldnt care if it was oral,anal,or "regular" intercourse,twould make no difference to me,if my woman was alone with another man,id forget her name,and detach myself from her completely,if she even flirted with another man,id guard myself inwardly,and say shes not for me,if she couldnt match my fidelity and faithfulness,then shes not for me.

and some really fun girls,are going to be unfaithful no matter what,no matter how good you are to them,just my 2 cents

Ya Estuvo.

i agree with adam,and some tell adam to put his shirt on,i'm blinded every time i read a topic he's posted in

i agree with adam,and some tell adam to put his shirt on,i'm blinded every time i read a topic he's posted in

Whether its a long term or a short term relationship, you both agree to being exclusive,,when someone wonders off,,it doesn't matter if its oral or sex to me,,its the same thing. Both are very intimate and should only be shared with the one you are committed to,,Trust is the issue,,and without trust,,you have nothing,,I say dump her.shes abviously not the one you want to be with.

rick,i have a friend,shes 26,really fun girl,i thought about keeping her for a girlfriend,but she is a player,and has intimacy issues emotionally,she cant be alone,but she cant really be with someone,but thouhg id never trust her,or let myself

fall in love with her,or even have sex with her,i still enjoy her friendship,and eating her cooking,spending time with her sometimes when i go to town,thouhg shes not really capable of the emotional intimacy necessary for even a friendship,i have a blast with her,and still enjoy her company,even snuggling with her on her couch,comforting her when shes sad,and i know this will sound really strange,weird or whatever,but i really enjoy having a nonsexual relationship with her,its a novel thing,but tis wonderful,when you absolutley dont trust them...its still possible to have a good disfunctional,non-sexual,relationship with them i guess,lol

lol perhaps y'all are missing the point of the question? obviously cheating is a crap-ass way to treat your partner and it should end the relationship. but which would bother/hurt/piss u off more....that there was oral involved or 'regular' intercourse? (i think that's rick's question)

i'm not one of the guys, but as someone who's had female significant others, i agree with rick that oral is really intimate and it would therefore be worse (marginally...)

Hurray Honey!!! I guess I should have just asked....."What do you consider more intimate...oral sex or sexual intercourse? As I said in chat, when a woman is giving oral sex, that **** is pretty close to her brain, her consciousness, her being and it's being done with lips that are used to show affection to friends, family, etc. That's why I feel oral sex is a more intimate act. Now somebody will tell me consciousness doesn't come from the brain.

My love, kissing someone else, and holding their hand while walking and laughing, would bother me the most.

Fellatio is a very deliberate act pretty much solely for the enjoyment of the male.

** It's not like the female was 'seduced' into doing something she didn't want to do.

** It's not like the female does it for her own sexual pleasure (it's all for him).

So when a chick blows a guy, expecting no sexual fulfillment in return, it could be considered a 'closer sexual act' than intercourse.